Relationships | Foul Romance

8 02 2010

Joe was sharing an experience that he had the other day. He was going deep sea diving but before he even hit the water he could not help but think that all the fish had died in the ocean. 

“Should I say something?” he asked.

I mean I know what I’d do. Speak up and ship on the hell out of that piece.

But, I understand that this is a sensitive issue. That’s like having to answer your girl’s question “Does this make me look fat”. Your answer should be that either it does or doesn’t, but nothing more. Nothing about the fact that with her ‘natural’ curves she shouldn’t be wearing that, or nothing about horizontal stripes. Nothing that descriptive.

Or for example, answering your man when he asks if he’s the best that you’ve had. Tricky? Indeed. But at least whether you answer it truthfully or not you don’t have to smell it. Ew. 

The way I see it, if you choose to keep your reaction to yourself, your libido surely will speak. For some of us this is more obvious than others, isn’t it Jr.?

So I say if it’s a fling; you are never going to see this individual again and you don’t want to say anything, reach for the phone explain “Damn” you forgot something and bounce. Otherwise, keep it missionary and get it over with quickly. I wouldn’t take the time to figure out if it’s just a bad day, because as far as one night stands go you gotta bring it or you get left behind. No hard feelings. No long talking. Anything that frowses or limps on Hit-it-and-Quit-it night needs no explanation. 

But if you are in a long term relationship or are are having ’something’ with the individual, unless you want to live through that hell for the rest of your time together, it may be best to say something. 

Now ladies and gentlemen I’m no doctor, so I can’t diagnose this, but my layman point of view would be that seeing some sort of person who specializes in that area would be a good idea, especially if it’s a condition that’s persistent.

I have absolutely nothing to back this up, but from what I’ve learnt in life, everything is correlated. Assuming that it’s not an STD, it’s possibly harmless. If it’s something that just ‘popped’ up maybe it’s :

- Diet related.
Garlic and onions maybe? I’ve also read that asparagus can bring on the funk as well. A diet rich in fruit acids like pineapple is thought to keep the smell pleasant, but as far as if this is scientifically proven I have no idea. 

- That time of the month.
Lets just say not only the personality gets thick during PMS.

Then too, if you are getting it in with your girl regularly unprotected, (*side eye* but no judgements), remember that your spunk is living matter and, like any other protein, it stinks when it starts decaying. So… it could be your fault guys.

I’ve also read that it can be possibly linked to smoking or having multiple partners. Apparently the privates no likey too much mixing and mingling between the proteins. That thought alone can bring on the frowz.

I’d say that maybe it’s a latex allergy but if it funks before you even get it in, I’d second guess that. 

Some other common things you can ensure, well common to me I guess, are:

- Wear clean undies daily. 
- Wash genitalia daily. Even if, for whatever reason, you don’t shower daily at least clean up the privates.

Ladies some particular no-nos:

– Extended wearing of thong underwear.
Two different types of bacteria going on down there, don’t want to mix them up. 

- Mystery fabric.
It just can’t breathe in lycra and other fabric that’s difficult to pronounce. Polyester underwear with spandex leggings is not a good idea. Nothing can breathe in that.

- Excessive douching.
Dries out area and removes good bacteria, or so I’ve read.

But in general, getting checked by a doctor is your best bet, even if it’s just to rule out that it’s not an STD in hiding. I mean Valentine’s Day is coming up and all, lets keep it fresh. 

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Cucumber The Great

4 02 2010

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I can make all sorts of jokes about the benefits of a whole, raw cucumber, but it’s not that kind of party today, at least not with this post. As it turns out the good ole’ cucumber can serve a lot of other purposes…

I was sent this information that was featured in The New York Times sometime late last year as part of their “Spotlight on the Home” series, that highlighted creative and fanciful ways to solve common problems.

I haven’t tried them all yet, but maybe I’ll pick up a couple long, thick, firm ones and put them to a different type of use today ;)

1. Cucumbers contain most of the vitamins you need every day, just one cucumber contains Vitamin B1, Vitamin B2, Vitamin B3, Vitamin B5, Vitamin B6, Folic Acid, Vitamin C, Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Phosphorus, Potassium and Zinc.

2. Feeling tired in the afternoon, put down the caffeinated soda and pick up a cucumber.  Cucumbers are a good source of B Vitamins and Carbohydrates that can provide that quick pick-me-up that can last for hours.

3. Tired of your bathroom mirror fogging up after a shower?  Try rubbing a cucumber slice along the mirror, it will eliminate the fog and provide a soothing, spa-like fragrance.

4. Are grubs and slugs ruining your planting beds?  Place a few slices in a small pie tin and your garden will be free of pests all season long.  The chemicals in the cucumber react with the aluminum to give off a scent undetectable to humans but drive garden pests crazy and make them flee the area.

5. Looking for a fast and easy way to remove cellulite before going out or to the pool?  Try rubbing a slice or two of cucumbers along your problem area for a few minutes, the phytochemicals in the cucumber cause the collagen in your skin to tighten, firming up the outer layer and reducing the visibility of cellulite.  Works great on wrinkles too!!!

6. Want to avoid a hangover or terrible headache?  Eat a few cucumber slices before going to bed and wake up refreshed and headache free.  Cucumbers contain enough sugar, B vitamins and electrolytes to replenish essential nutrients the body lost, keeping everything in equilibrium, avoiding both a hangover and headache!!

7. Looking to fight off that afternoon or evening snacking binge?  Cucumbers have been used for centuries and often used by European trappers, traders and explores for quick meals to thwart off starvation.

8. Have an important meeting or job interview and you realize that you don’t have enough time to polish your shoes?  Rub a freshly cut cucumber over the shoe, its chemicals will provide a quick and durable shine that not only looks great but also repels water.

9. Out of WD 40 and need to fix a squeaky hinge?  Take a cucumber slice and rub it along the problematic hinge, and voila, the squeak is gone!

10. Stressed out and don’t have time for massage, facial or visit to the spa?  Cut up an entire cucumber and place it in a boiling pot of water, the chemicals and nutrients from the cucumber with react with the boiling water and be released in the steam, creating a soothing, relaxing aroma that has been shown the reduce stress in new mothers and college students during final exams.

11. Just finish a business lunch and realize you don’t have gum or mints?  Take a slice of cucumber and press it to the roof of your mouth with your tongue for 30 seconds to eliminate bad breath, the phytochemcials will kill the bacteria in your mouth responsible for causing bad breath.

12. Looking for a ‘green’ way to clean your faucets, sinks or stainless steel?  Take a slice of cucumber and rub it on the surface you want to clean, not only will it remove years of tarnish and bring back the shine, but is won’t leave streaks and won’t harm you fingers or fingernails while you clean.

13. Using a pen and made a mistake?  Take the outside of the cucumber and slowly use it to erase the pen writing, also works great on crayons and markers that the kids have used to decorate the walls!!

Chomp, chomp. Tasty!

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Thanks for looking out Gis!

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Making light of it all

4 02 2010

 

You know that feeling you get when you realized that something just went terribly wrong?

For example the one that you get when you realize that you just royally destroyed something that’s not yours, either something you borrowed or something that you are supposed to keep safe for someone. Fear, panic, and maybe somewhere long after you get a flash of intelligence where you actually do something that can alleviate the situation perhaps. Then of course you have more fear. What is your friend going to say? How are you going to apologize? Then you start thinking down the line, how will this affect the friendship? This series of questioning is often followed by resignation, where you just take a deep breath and face your friend dead on, with your head hung in shame.

It’s been said that life is a tragedy in the short term but a comedy in the long term, especially where it concerns material things. Hindsight is really 20/20.

Thing is, even though in the moment you feel as though you just want to crawl through the crack in the floor and die, if you choose to retell the story to someone else, it would be almost impossible for them to resist the urge to laugh. And then, though you may be annoyed at first that the person isn’t taking your misfortune seriously, you can eventually see the light dawn in the horizon and you start to laugh yourself.

How silly you were! Trying to turn the electric burner off without using the knob, duh things will catch a fire. Eventually, things don’t seem that bad at all. Actually, you then realize that things could have been a whole lot worse. 

A gentle smile sometimes helps to diffuse difficult situations. The ability to laugh at one’s transgressions is truly indicative of one being comfortable with oneself – and with others. We are not perfect. Bad things happen, or at least they may seem bad at the time, but really things are not usually as bad as they seem.  So you stub your toe on the end table. After you stop rolling around on the ground, look back and try to see the humor in the situation. A good laugh at oneself never hurt anyone.

As a matter of fact, laughing is said to be very good for the soul. A smile is said to use less muscles than a frown. (okay but can some one please explain what good are those horrid laugh-lines are for? What the firetruck purpose does that serve? Every time one is seen, a frown soon follows, go figure.)

And if you are a regular here you will appreciate me putting in this: The Mona Lisa is a piece of art that always brings a smile to my face. In fact I must confess that I have spent many an hour standing in front of a mirror trying to perfect that very same smile.

As it turns out laughter is also used as an anesthetic. The dentists give you nitrous oxide  so that you can ‘laugh’ through the pain of a root canal, although the pain that lingers after the nitrous oxide wears away is nothing to laugh at.

All of this can be backed up scientifically. One Dr. Provine states that:-

- The much vaunted health benefits of laughter are probably coincidental, a consequence of it’s much more important primary goal: bringing people together. In fact, the health benefits of laughter may result from the social support it stimulates.

- Laughter plays a big role in mating. Men like women who laugh heartily in their presence.

- Both sexes laugh a lot, but females laugh more–126 percent more than their male counterparts. Men are more laugh-getters.

- The laughter of the female is the critical index of a healthy relationship.

- Laughter in relationships declines dramatically as people age.

- Like yawning, laughter is contagious; the laugher of others is irresistible.

So you see even the scientists are laughing. It is after all the best medicine.

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Forward ever…

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Source: The benefits of laughter.

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Carnival | Safety on and off the road.

3 02 2010

Times have changed.

With all the crazy nonsense that’s going on with people’s mental in this world today,  we can’t help but feel that at Carnival time these disasters can be magnified tenfold. With all the merriment and revelry, not to mention alcohol and the free feelings we really need to very vigilant.

Safety is the magic word here. With all the feathers and glitter, we can be lulled into a false feeling of invincibility and security. So with that in mind here are our tips for Carnival Safety.

1. Safety in numbers.

Play Mas with a friend or two. Or three or four.

The chances of some looney attacking a group of women are much lower than it is for one that is walking alone.

Any trips to the bathroom should be with one or more of the group. Stay with the band if you are playing and don’t go outside the ropes if you can help it. Designate a meeting place for stragglers of the group,  that way if anyone gets lost you all wouldn’t have to spend half the time looking for a stray friend. Walk with limited cash, and absolutely no valuables and try to do without that 18k gold necklace and engagement ring (explain to your husband/fiancé/boyfriend that its for your safety).

And that very valuable cellphone? Why not insert the sim card into another less valuable phone, just for that day/ event. If we must travel with it, let’s keep it close and only bring it out for emergencies, shall we?

2. Know your limit.

Ladies, in case you don’t know, there are sickos out there. This can of course apply to the men as well. People just aren’t the same anymore. Blame it on the trans fat. When we are having fun and we tend to imbibe more than we should, and somehow or other we can end up paying for it dearly. The after result can be as small as grave embarrassment to as large as deep regret. I’m no statistician but it appears that women tend to be more vulnerable than men to the adverse effects of alcohol abuse, in that women can achieve higher concentrations of alcohol levels in their blood and as a result become more impaired than men after drinking the same amount of alcohol.

Take note of how many drinks you have had before you lose control completely of your faculties. Not only does it look a hot mess as a young lady exercising her up-chuck reflex but also that’s no greater sign to a looney that you have lost all self-control and judgment. Hydrate yourself frequently and head off the over drunk vibes.

Walking around glued to your cell phone while you are talking to your best friend also compromises your ability to detect as well as your response time. Be vigilant at all times.

3. Park in a well-lit area

You see that nice spot in the back yard alley? It’s vacant for a reason, – everyone else is smart enough to know not to park there. Ensure that there is security around to guard your vehicle. Of course this doesn’t guarantee anything, but it’s got to be one step up from parking in that alleyway.

4. Don’t friend like you do on Facebook

Guard your privacy.

Not everyone who speaks who looks cute is your friend. In real life, good looks don’t guarantee strength of character. Don’t give out your number to strange people. This is not to say that you have to be rude, but there are other ways of contacting that person rather than giving out your phone number to random folks, an email address for example works just well. This way if someone does turn out to be less than stellar outside the glitz and glamour that is Trinidad Carnival, then you haven’t given them a direct part to your personal life via a house or cell phone number.

5. Protect yourself

We implore all persons to make their momma’s proud and carry themselves in a proper manner.

This is a time when between the combination of the sweet soca music, unlimited alcohol, gyrating hips, and over exposed skin gets to you, then on top of that the hunger and the wigglies hit you, all of a sudden, through the rum glasses that stranger looks really ‘hot’ and you want to get it in.

This is a time we throw caution to the wind but please; if you are going to engage in sexual behaviour, please protect yourself, in whatever way you choose.  AIDS is not the average STD; you can’t come back from that.

Prevention is better than waiting for a cure.

Forward ever…

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Career | Presentation is Key

2 02 2010

At the risk of sounding shallow, how we package ourselves tells the world a lot about us. Now exactly what it says may or may not be a true reflection of who we are, so as it’s yapping anyways, why not have it say something that we wish it to say?

It is often said that “You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression“. Not quite sure who coined that but kudos, ’cause people like to refer to it. 

Of course, first impressions may be more applicable in certain situations than in others. In some circumstances, even though people may always remember how snotty you appeared when they met you, you may have the opportunity to expose your kind and fun self to them again or over a period of time, and so this ‘perception’ of you may change. 

Not so with résumés.

I’ve been out of it for a minute, but I’ve been up the the task recently of going through résumés to find individuals to fill certain positions. ’They’ always tell you what to do to make your résumé stand out, and we take heed (more or less), but I don’t think one realizes the gravity of what ‘they’ say about proper résumé writing until one has to sift through hundreds of résumés to fill just one position.

Interesting indeed.

Having just recently re-entered the working world, I can testify that writing your résumé is a huge pain in the ever expanding derrière. Writing one that is specific to the position, is what is recommended, which must be one of the most difficult tasks on the face of the planet, especially when you’ve just completed a change of career. 

As well, largely because of the state of the economy, you may want to utilize all of the experience that you’ve gathered along the years to cast your net as wide as possible in your job search, so you think about looking into different types of jobs. Does that mean you have to write different résumés? That would be a yes. 

Suppose you are re-entering the world of work after being out for a while, either as a result of going back to school, taking an extended vacation, or perhaps taking some time off to raise your kid(s), should the way you structure your résumé look different from someone’s who is currently holding down a 9-5? Yes indeedy.

There seems to be a lot of rules when it comes to résumé writing, and unless you are benefiting from workplace nepotism, these are rules that you should try your best to be familiar with. It should take you some time well to put your résumé together, and for good reason – You have to best capture your greatest yet relevant qualities and achievements on paper, for a 20 second read.

If that takes you just about 10 minutes to put together, anyone who reads it will come to the conclusion that you either haven’t accomplished much, or aren’t seriously interested in propelling your career. Unfair maybe, but such is life.

There are tons of mistakes commonly made in résumé writing. Among them, the most popular tend to be:

1. Typos.

Spelling

Under this category we shall list the blatant typographical errors or typos. In these instances, the word doesn’t exist. It’s just wrong, wrong, wrong, doesn’t-exist-in-the-english-language type of incorrect. These are ones where the red squiggly line appears under the ‘word’ in question in the Microsoft Word application, and the person reading your resume wonders if you were even looking at the computer screen when you typed the résumé.

Grammar

This is the fun one. The one where the spell-check programme gives you the thumbs up because everything is just swanky. It’s the one that you never see coming. I’d imagine that this is a favourite of Editors and other such professionals, because it sure does give me a grand time. 

For example forgetting to put the ‘l’ in the title “General Manager, Public Relations”.

Scary.

Next.

Get fresh eyes to proofread your résumé. Sometimes we’ve been looking at it so long that we know what we wish to say so we read what we believe we wrote, and not what’s actually written on the paper. 

2. Being a blabber mouth.

Waaaaay too much info. Zero focus. It says:

“Just kill them with general info and call it a day why not? They’re looking for people aren’t they? So they must take the time to read it.”

Negative captain. 

Next.

I mean these people have at most 20 seconds. What do you want them to see?

Using what is referred to as ‘key words’ not only gets you better results, but I’ve found they actually help you condense your résumé too. Think action. Verbs, in the past tense, and don’t forget the ‘how’. Kinda sorta like:

- Expanded something by x percent by doing something
- Created something for some event by utilizing some resource or the other.
- Solved some problem by taking the initiative to calculate something or the other. 

Something like that. No-one’s testing your subject-verb agreement; it’s acceptable to just use phrases.

Omit all the first person (“I”) references. Yes, we know that there is no “I” in “TEAM” but there is surely one in “WIN”, but we need not let everyone know that this is etched on our Coat of Arms.

3. Listing duties instead of achievements.

HR personnel are pretty familiar with job descriptions, after all they construct them. So listing all the duties that you were paid to perform doesn’t say much other than the fact that you went to work everyday and did your job. Fantastic. You get an ‘A’ for showing up and being on time.

Now what about you performance?

Zought, because of course you failed to list one thing you accomplished in the 5+ years of working at your last place of employment.

Next.

4. Announcing your age via loud speaker.

I mean seriously, if you have 15+ years work experience after having completed some tertiary level education, why would you still list your summer jobs in University?

Or the more classic example, your high school? You’re just begging your potential interviewer to call you ‘old’.

Next.

Here’s a heads up: we’re grown. Professionally, no-one cares what high-school you went to. Leave that for awkward silence, filler-chat at the coffee machine when you do get hired. Move past your glory days already, so that you can make room for now, your Grown ‘n Sexy days.

Just put what’s important – your accomplishments.

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There are many others, just search “Common resume mistakes” and you’ll find them.

But if you have a stack of résumés in front of you, there is no time to even read anything to find a typo, or surmise that the individual is talking about duties that have no relevance to the situation, or the fact that s/he’s lying on the résumé.  

Therefore, my number one greatest résumé errors of all time is, one word:

5. FORMAT

or lack thereof.

Presentation. Presentation. Presentation is often an integral component to your career success. 

This should come as no surprise, after all presentation is key in other areas of our lives –  in our homes, our social interactions, and even as it concerns how we dress ourselves.

So yes, it applies to résumés. How you package information can determine how well it will be received, if it will be received at all. 

Bullets, structure, the use of bold and/ or italicized headings and well and consistently spaced information on a résumé for example, says a whole lot more about you than any ‘key word’ can. It screams “Professional” and “Detail oriented” for starters, and which employer doesn’t like that?

Man, a well structured résumé can get you singled out in an instant. 

K.I.S.S. – Keep it Simple Stupid –  (an acronym, I’m not referring to any particular person as such. Thanks much.)

No fancy colours or curly cursive writing please. No flashing animated text. It makes hard on the eyes man. Sheesh. Don’t be singled out for the wrong reason.

And make it fit. One page, two pages, three pages – you decide depending on your qualifications and the position that you are applying for. This one line on the last page business doesn’t nearly cut it, having half a page of info is just as bad.

An originally structured, solidly formatted resume alone may not necessarily land you the job, but it can at least get you in the ’second glance’ pile that’s one step closer to an interview. 

That’s all you need; an opportunity to showcase your greatness. That’s what you were looking for isn’t it?.

The rest is totally up to you.

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Trinidad Carnival | What Not to Wear

1 02 2010

Having been to all these Carnival fetes, boy… there’s so much to say. Carnival is right around the corner yes, but ladies there is still time enough for some of us to redeem ourselves, especially in the style & fashion department.

Lord where do we start…

1. Dress to according to your size. 

Let’s face it, not everything is for everybody.

It’s carnival yes, but if we have to stomach one more unfit, non-entertainment female strutting about in short shorts, boobie poppers, fishnet stockings and stilettos we will call the fashion police. I mean what’s the goal here? It’s baffling that one has a full length mirror at home and can still manage to leave the house in nothing that flatters any one area of one’s body.

If your legs aren’t toned, fishnets have a tendency to make your legs look like stuffed sausage, just waiting for any reason to be released. If you must, try wearing the fishnets over leotards that match your skin exactly. That’s what the average performer does, but they’re entertainers, what’s your excuse?

Why not try some leggings, some fab shoes and a ‘just right’ top that flatters the girls, but yet covers the derriere and leaves a bit to the imagination. Butt cheeks encased in holey stockings is just not cool man. 

2. Dress according to your intended behaviour

Further to point #1, if you know you going to jump up and get on bad in de people fete, and you ain’t no ‘A’ bra cup then wearing your boobies barely restrained in slinky strappy tops that provide absolutely no support to manage the aggressive jumping movement is not cute. 

Even if are blessed with some perky, good-sized assets show them some appreciation and wear a bra if you intend to jump around like House of Pain. They will thank you as your skin ages.

And while we’re on the subject of bras, get ones that fit please. If you aren’t sure of your size walk into any store that sells them and get yourself measured. It’s free.

And, excuse the vernacular but ‘yuh see them strap on de bra them? That is fuh yuh to tighten the bra so that it fit yuh’. If you stand in the mirror and you see a couple of melons stretching towards your waist, this can be remedied by tightening the straps. But, you knew that … right?

3. Ease off the hair product

Greasy/ too much hair product/wet and drippy/gelled to a spiky health hazard/ are all no nos. Nuff said.

One blue devil spouting fire from his lips and you up in smoke.

4. Walk away from horizontally stripped lycra.

Horizontal stripes are only meant for the runway. The slim model types that we come across from day to day can also get away with them. If ever have ever used the word ‘curves’ or the phrase ‘lady lumps’ while referring to yourself – stay away. 

Anything other than an athletic/ boy shape needs to get over the idea of ever wearing horizontally stripped lycra, at least in public. ‘Coca-cola bottle shape’, ‘apple’, ‘pear’, ‘top heavy’, ‘bottom heavy’, however else you want to call whatever other shape there is, just stay very far away from horizontal stripes please.

5. Quit channeling Medusa

Dark/black lipliner and sheer lipstick went out with the garbage. Your liner should exactly match your lipstick and on top of that no matchy matchy eyeshadow to go with your get up. That is never a good idea. Where are the fire-breathing, mono-cycling, bowling pin juggling clowns?  You look like you are part of a circus troupe. 

For tips on Grown ‘n Sexy makeup applications see a whoooole set of tips here:

6. Wear your own clothes

That is to say wear clothes that you are comfortable with dammit, because I’m going to assume that you wouldn’t spend your own money on clothes that don’t fit and flatter you. Tugging at your painted on hems just draws unnecessary attention to your wanna-bee self. If it’s riding then let it ride. If you’re uncomfortable with the ride then change your clothes before you leave the house. It’s that simple; No-one is forcing you to wear it.

OOOOR you can be sensible and wear something that fits and flatters the shape that your mother gave you. For universally flattering style tips for women click here.

7. Cover your essentials

The only person that should be seeing your butt crack is no one.  This also goes for string thongs and panty-lines. If you put on some panties that are too small (hoping they will hold you in), and then put stretch skinny jeans or, Lord forbid, leggings over it – you end up with the VPL (visible panty line) sausage effect. Uuuuuggghhhhh! 

There is really no remedy for this other than wear your size. Please and thank you.

For tips on wearing leggings click here.

8. Use ‘fashion’ accessories

All the jewelry that you and your neighbor own belong in a saftey deposit box and not on your body at Carnival time. Don’t put yourself and others in danger by putting on the glitz and strutting yuh stuff in Panorama – you just begging for drama. Anyone can figure that out.

You can get into the embellishment trend by wearing glitzy accessories that are not only trendy and fashionable but will give you all the bling that you desire without all the drama of being robbed. For tips on hopping unto the embellishment trend click here.

Forward ever…

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Poll | Apple’s iPad

31 01 2010

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Discuss.

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Random afternoon funny | Mistakes

25 01 2010

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” It could be that the purpose of your life is only to serve as a warning to others”

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Funny?

not really… well not when it’s YOUR life that they’re referring to, but I’m sure that we can all think of at least a handful of people who may fall into this category :D

So let’s make it happen. Today, start doing whatever it takes so that this is not your running script.

No better day like today, after all it’s the first day of the rest of your life!

Here’s to an awesome week!

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Ooops! | Short Hair Mistakes

25 01 2010

Short hair is all the rave. More than a cut, short hair is a personality, one that you can’t fake and have to get just right. In the right cut, short hair can be an effortlessly chic, no brainer. However, not all short cuts are created equal. The right short ‘do for you will depend on many factors including, but not limited to:

- The shape of your face

- Your social lifestyle

- The natural texture of your hair

- The thickness of your hair

- Your wardrobe

- Your personality

- Your bank account balance/ stylist hookups

for example.

 

If you are thinking about making the transition to short hair, or even if you’ve already made it and find some difficulty in maintaining it, check out some of the tips below on what to avoid:

1. Blunt cut on curly hair

It may look on ‘fyah’ when you are in the salon, but when you walk out and that humidity hits you can end up looking like the poodle down the street.

With curly hair, there’s no telling where the chips will fall when the natural curl instinct kicks in after it’s first wash, meaning you will never be able to wash your hair and make a dash (lounging around at the beach/ pool perhaps), or engage in any activity where humidity is involved, including being anywhere outside when it rains. eeek!

To keep the unkempt poodle look, try a short cut that is layered. The curlier the hair the less layered it should be though, because the more curly the hair the greater the shrinkage, and the more likely the ‘layers’ will turn into a ‘mullet’. Not cool.

2. Too blunt. 

Too helmet gear-ish. Kinda-sorta like wearing a masculine cut jacket WITH super spongy shoulder pads, this look is overly severe. Blunt AND straight AND stiff is just about the recipe I’d say.

This only works on the runway I’m afraid, where , to the average human being, almost everything else looks like it’s made for another planet.

Even if it’s a blunt cut, soften by adding some layers, or by removing some of the weight from the ends by using the texturizing process.

3. Wrong proportions

Find the right proportions. If you are voluptuous avoid cutting hair too close to the scalp to avoid looking like a pin head. Likewise, if you are petite avoid overly layered, voluminous hair, which would make you look top heavy.

4. Lack of maintenance

Not keeping up with a chic short cut is a clear sign of a Diva wannabee. Short hair needs to be cut every 4-6 weeks depending on your rate of hair growth as well as the cut. If you have neither the time nor the money to keep up with this, go for a layered cut instead that would be more forgiving when your hair grows out.

5. Not styling 

Short hair needs to be styled daily, especially if you’ve opted for a style that the hair you were born with doesn’t follow, naturally. Depending on your cut and hair texture ’styling’ can be anywhere from following with mousse after wetting every morning to full hundred breaking out the flat iron. 

Consult with your stylist on the styling routine required by the cut on your hair before making the commitment.

6. Over accessorizing

Ladies, short hair is already chic. With short hair your face is put on front street. Don’t mask it with dangly earrings AND a glittery bandeau AND loud makeup AND a necklace – too much.

Choose one accessory to focus on. 

**Where applicable, the tips above go for male or female – so long as you have hair that needs to be both maintained using some cutting device and styled.**

Snip away!

 

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Hygiene Tip | Clean Balls

20 01 2010

 

The AXE Detailer - "Cleans your balls"

 

 

Guys, if you have dirty balls that need cleaning, check out this very important message from Axe.

Me likey mucho thiso concepto.

It’s that much more enjoyable to play with clean equipment.

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Thanks for looking out Lise.

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Skin condition | “Acne”

20 01 2010

 

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Acne is a skin condition/ disorder that is normally associated with teenagers, but it can affect people at almost any age. It can be a phase as well as it can also be a lifelong battle.

The word ‘acne’ usually refers to the condition acne vulgaris, which is the most common form of acne. It is an hereditary disorder, and requires dedicated treatment for many years. Although it is not infectious, contagious or life threatening, it is not uncommon for the presence of acne to severely affect one’s social life, self-esteem and self-perception.

Causes

Acne does not occur because of a lack of cleanliness. Yes it is important to keep the skin clean, but acne is caused by:

- Heridity and

- Hormones

As acne is a genetic disorder, if parents suffer from acne then chances are that their children will also. 

- Stress can also be a factor in the cause of acne. 

Heredity

Acne, as a hereditary condition, is also referred to as retention hyperkeratosis. Here, dead skin cells do not shed off the skin’s surface as regularly and as frequently as they would on a normal skin type.

As discussed earlier, skin type is hereditary.

The tendency to have excess sebum production (as is the case with Oily skin) is one skin type that is inherited. The oilier the skin, the greater the tendency for severe acne. With very oily skin, all areas of the skin (not only the T-Zone – forehead, nose, chin) are oily and the scalp may be oily as well. The presence of enlarged pores also facilitate the formation of acne. 

For more on oily skin see post Skin Type | Oily Skin

Retention hyperkeratosis will be discussed further in a later post. 

Hormones

Hormones are also key in the formation of acne. Androgens, or male hormones, stimulate the skin’s oil glands and cause an increase in its oil (sebum) production. These hormones also cause increased inflammation in pores or the skin’s follicles. 

Hormones play a huge part in acne in both tweens/ teenagers (around puberty)  and in adults, females more so than males.

Most hormonal acne is minimal and may be treated. The biggest issue with hormonal acne in teenagers is their lack of discipline with treating their skin. 

Stress

Of course, stress is also a factor in acne.

It is not uncommon to experience a breakout when one is going through any of life’s many traumas – an exam that you didn’t study for, marriage, divorce, loss of employment etc. This is because stress usually causes hormonal imbalance; it is the production of the adrenaline hormone, which is used by humans to cope with stressful events like danger and emergencies, from the adrenal gland which is partly responsible for this imbalance.

The stimulation of the adrenal gland also causes an increase in the production of androgen. In women, the majority of androgen, the male hormone which increases the oil production, is produced by the adrenal gland. This may explain why women have a greater tendency than men to break out under stress.  

Grades of Acne

There are different grades of acne, from the occasional pimples to the acne that is disfiguring or that which causes redness, pustules and even permanent scarring. The severity of the acne is referred to by dermatologists in varying ‘grades’ from grades 1 – 4, Grade 1 being the least worrisome and grade 4 being the most.

Grades 1 – 2

Grades 1 -2 are comprised mostly of open and closed comedones.

- Open comedones - commonly known as blackheads. 

Closed comedones - appear as small bumps just under the skin and are sometimes called whiteheads. 

Both of these types of comedones are non-inflammatory lesions i.e. skin is not red or irritated, and is perhaps why, although technically considered to be acne, grades 1 and 2 aren’t usually considered as such by the average person.

In Grade 2 acne:

- Papules, a type of raised lesion that is usually characterized by red bumps or 

- pustules, an infected papule, one that is filled with pus, a whitish fluid that is a mixture of dead white blood cells (from fighting against the infection), bacteria, blood and skin cells that have been destroyed by the infection

are also present. These terms will be covered in depth in a later post. 

These grades of acne can benefit from the extraction of open and closed comedones by an esthetician.

Grades 3 -4

In grades 3 – 4 acne, in addition to all of the above, skin is inflamed and red. This is what people typically think of when they refer to ‘acne’.

Grade 4 acne is the worst type of acne vulgaris. This type of acne will also comprise of deep nodules and cysts, as well as scarring may be present along with severe inflammation. 

Although follow up, deep-cleansing treatments can be done by an esthetician, these grades of acne must first be treated by a dermatologist, as oral and/ or topical medication and other more aggressive treatments may be needed to get this condition under control. 

Acne Management

Acne that is hereditary cannot be changed just by visiting the esthetician at your neighborhood Spa. A dermatologist or endocrinologist (a doctor who deals with hormones) may be able to manipulate hormones, but a permanent and complete change may not be successful. 

Still, it is possible to control and manage acne to the point where there are no visible and inflamed lesions, although the occasional lesion may pop up from time to time. Regardless of the grade of acne that is present on the skin, regular visits to your esthetician for deep-cleansing facials, coupled with proper skin care management at home are required to keep acne flares under control. 

There are other factors that both you and your esthetician can control to keep problem skin under wraps. These too will be discussed at a further point. 

 

Works Consulted:
D’Angelo, J. & Dean, P.  Milady’s Standard Comprehensive Training for Estheticians. Thomson Learning, Inc.
Class notes  

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PSA | Aid to Haiti

20 01 2010

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In an earlier post I made the recommendation that, with respect to donations to Haiti, ‘all help counts’. Let me clarify, things not to donate to Haiti:

- Disco and other types of synthetic party wear – Haitians not going clubbing anytime soon.

- used toiletries, like toothbrushes

- plastic jewelry

- torn handbags

- dirty, used clothing

- used/ soiled underwear

The stories that I get from my friends and family who have been volunteering to sort donated items bound for Haiti just blow my mind. There is a huge outpouring of support in terms of in-kind donations yes, but the things that people are donating is another story. 

Not just because people are destitute does it mean that they ought to be treated like second class citizens.

Used/ soiled underwear? I mean seriously. Would we feel good about accepting these items for our family?

Then why would we think that’s acceptable to donate to someone else’s?

Lets not confuse the act of donating with personal spring cleaning.

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Another thing I need to address is this matter of individuals seeking funding to make a trip to Haiti, as I’ve been flooded with such emails.

To do what exactly? There already are a lot of people over there. You’re not a doctor, or nurse… what are you really going to do? If you really want to help, pay your own fare why not. Why should I take MY money and buy YOU a plane ticket? What help is that going to do? Wouldn’t the money be better served sending directly to Haiti, so that the relevant authorities can buy tangible items that people can actually benefit from such as:

- Bottled water

- Medical supplies

- Canned food

- Baby clothing

- Clean, unsoiled clothing, wearable as is. 

perhaps?

Some seek fame in devastation.

According to most charity sites, including all chapters of the Red Cross, there are more than enough people on the ground in Haiti to help/ volunteer, what they really need is money to:

1. Get all the in-kind donations they’ve been flooded with to reach Haiti

2. Get additional, urgent supplies that they are lacking.

Think long and hard about your contributions to assist Haiti. It costs to send these containers guys, not to mention the inventory and warehousing costs to store every thing before (and after) they get enough volunteers to sort the mountains of donated items.

Think about what you are sending and don’t send stuff just because you don’t want it. It’s just a waste of money to send stuff that noone is going to use. 

All ‘dontations’ aren’t created equal. 

The Canadian Red Cross states that:

In-kind donations of food, clothing and other items, while well intentioned, are not the best way to help those in need. There are tremendous processing and transportation costs involved in shipping these items to beneficiaries. Local purchases of food and clothing are more culturally appropriate and effective. Red Cross supplies can be purchased in the immediate area, thereby reducing transportation costs.

Cash transfers to the affected region provide the optimum flexibility to our Red Cross colleagues so they can meet the most urgent needs.

A lot of volunteers are needed to sort in-kind donations, then the administrative and logistical costs of shipping and return of the containers, the same cost of volunteers on the ground.

Then, there’s the logistical cost to distribute… man, it’s a charity’s nightmare to move all and everything in time. 

With regard to Haiti, just donate $10 already. That way the organization that you chose to partner with can put it where it’s most needed, in a timely fashion. You can always give the (useable) in-kind stuff you gathered in your New Year’s spring cleaning activity to your local charity. 

Just a thought. 

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The ‘Smart’ Curse

19 01 2010

 

Being perceived as ’smart’ is definitely a blessing.

It also has it’s drawbacks. 

Everyone expects that you do something ‘phenomenal’ with your life, at the very least become a doctor, a lawyer, some engineer of some sort. An accountant. A neurosurgeon. A rocket scientist.

Change the world in some magnificent boom bang way that will require you to give speeches where people introduce you and the alphabet that comes after your name, in some terrificly formal shindig setting.

So while you are conquering the world, doing and fulfilling everything that everyone else has dreamed for you, all you really want to do is sell rubber slippers and marinate by the beach.

Being a hero is great and all, but sometimes you just want to not think about anything, to not be responsible for saving the world. Maybe it’s a phase, maybe it’s not, still it doesn’t remove the fact that it’s a genuine feeling that you have. It’s quite possible that if you sit long enough, you can formulate the next best thing, but you just don’t wish to do it today. Not this year, and quite possibly, not for the rest of your life

It’s not that you don’t wish to be successful or achieve something in life, you just wish to be free from the bondage of lofty, mismatched expectations for a quick second. 

Interestingly enough, so many of my friends experience this feeling. 

The civil engineer, who works in construction who’s dream is to one day own a kite surfing place, where he teaches people how to kite surf for the whole day, everyday. The master accountant, working in one of the biggest accounting firms in the world who wishes to be a photographer and have his own studio. The high profile lawyer who just wishes to write and maybe one day become a journalist, or the engineer who sells fuel oil to Europe who wishes to switch to an industry where the average starting salary is minimum wage.

Totally irrational isn’t it?

This world can be so competitive at times that parents can’t help but want the best for their children. It is especially difficult for ’smart’ kids who have the opportunity for higher education, an opportunity that maybe their parents didn’t have. So yeah, I totally get it. 

In an age where it is more and more of a requirement to have a degree to even get through the door of a corporate interview, there is the added pressure of going to University to pursue… something, anything that will get you even a prayer of a ’stable’ future. It is not uncommon for some kids to be the first in their family to have the opportunity to attend University, so even then the pressure builds, and builds. The entire dreams of past generations are heaved upon a 13 year old:

“Son, what are you going to do with your life?” 

Thing is, in a world that is so competitive, how can you NOT want the ‘best’ for your child? 

Not that my kids will not go to University, eeerrr…. no. That’s not what I’m saying. If they want to do PhD in basket weaving even, they will get that paper, for it is not my intention to understate the value of an education. The aim isn’t to be necessarily disadvantaged, but just to take the path in life that closely matches your dreams and aspirations.  

I’m just saying, the world is such a smaller place now, and there are so many niche markets. These are exciting times. You can do almost anything and be successful once you posses the passion (and talent!) for it.

It’s never too late to take some time, even if it’s part time or maybe once a week, to do or start that thing that you’ve always ‘dreamed’ of doing. Of course, it’s not necessarily going to be easy, but going after something that you are passionate about rarely is. I’ve found that though it may be difficult to balance the many, doing something that you enjoy can bring the sanity to the sensationally insane world that we live in. 

In terms of kids, why not take an honest look at their natural talents.

- What are they good at?

- What do they enjoy?

- What would they like to try?

Let this be a starting point from which you formulate their lives rather than formulate it from the point of view of what you always wanted to do. 

It’s not always this simple but it’s a start. Knowing and understanding the natural talents of our kids, make us better prepared to jump at the opportunity for them to pursue their purpose in life, whenever one may present itself. It may take us a while to find one, but at least we will be prepared.

This is not always an easy process, as often times we haven’t yet taken the time to do the same with ourselves.

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Success can be defined not so much by the amount of money we make, but by the quality of life that we experience. Success is subjective; Not everything is for everyone.

There is so much to be excited for in this life; so much to see, to experience, to do. People to meet, places to visit, things to do. 

Do what you love. Love what you do.

Live life passionately. 

 

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What is it? | “Dry Scalp”

18 01 2010

 

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In the Caribbean, we are familiar with ‘dry scalp’, a term that is used to explain almost any scalp condition that involves powdery flakes – on the scalp, in the hair, on someone’s back and on their clothing, which usually serves as a source of embarrassment. Some also use this state as an indication to shampoo their hair.

The term ‘dry scalp’ is also used to refer to another condition, also called dandruff – thick patches of scale that are caked to the scalp, that may also be associated with acne-like bumps on the head.

In it’s mildest form, ‘dry scalp’ is harmless, although it can do a number on your social life. 

Dr. Patricia Yap, a dermatologist who practices in Jamaica and specializes in black skin, states that:

The medical term for ‘dry scalp’ is Seborrheic Eczema/ Dermatitis. It is a condition that is usually accompanied by itching, redness or whitening of the scalp and face. Other parts of the body can also become involved, such as the hairline, eyebrows, and the sides of the nose, behind and in the ears, in the middle of the chest and back and in the groin. These areas have the highest concentration of sebaceous (oil) glands. It can also be found in infants and when present during infancy, is called cradle cap when present on the scalp but can affect the entire body of the enfant

Seborrheic eczema is a subdivision of eczema and is based solely on clinical grounds. The term “seborrheic” is thought to be misleading because seborrhoea (a medical term applied to describe an accumulation on the skin of the normal sebaceous secretion mixed with dirt and forming scales or a distinct incrustation) is not always present and is not required to make a diagnosis.

It has been proven that pityrosporum, a type of yeast, plays an active role in Seborrheic eczema. These yeasts are oil-loving organisms, (lipophilic) and are normally found on the skin in areas where oil (sebaceous) glands are abundant. 

Findings

In her Jamaican practice, Dr. Yap has found that Seborrheic eczema:

- Exists in infants

- Is commonest in young adults, females more so than males

- Is common in patients with Parkinson’s disease and immuno-suppression.

Symptoms

Large quantities of these organisms can give rise to the following:

1. Inflammation, which results in redness, scaly or dry patches on skin, especially after washing face.

2. Itching and burning of the face when hot or after face is washed.

3. Hair loss when combing or even tugging on hair. This worsens after the hair is chemically processed, as often during chemical treatments, there is excessive burning, which causes acute damage to the scalp.

4. Uneven skin tone – whitening or darkening of the areas involved, especially those on the face. 

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Dr. Yap found it interesting that, in the the Jamaican culture, it is not uncommon for hairdressers to suggest oiling of the scalp for effective treatment of this condition. While oiling of the scalp makes the flakes less obvious (masking the flakes), it worsens the condition as the presence of this oil provides a rich breeding ground for the reproduction of the Pityrosporum yeasts, and so they remain. 

Some factors she highlights that contribute to the high incidence of Seborrheic eczema in Jamaica are:

1. Genetic

This condition is hereditary, i.e. the patient has a first degree relative e.g. a mother, father, daughter or son, with this condition. 

2. Cultural Practices

Because of certain hair styles and processes, it is not uncommon for many women to wash their hair no more than twice a month. This natural oil buildup, coupled with oiling of the scalp provides an ideal environment for multiplication of these yeasts. 

3. Environmental

Heat worsens this condition, and the tropical climate of Jamaica provides the ideal temperature for growth of these yeasts, which grow best between 27 and 30 degrees Celsius - the temperature of Jamaica in summer when the condition has been found to be most prevalent. 

4. Stress

During stress, oil glands are more active. It is then perhaps as a result of the increased production of oil, the yeasts multiply and conquer. It is then no coincidence that individuals who are often under stress, for example police officers, lawyers, accountants and students who are studying for exams for example, often are affected by this condition. 

5. Hormonal

Seborrheic eczema has been shown to be more active near menstruation as well as during pregnancy. 

6. The overuse of harsh cleansing soaps like blue soap, Protex and Lifebuoy.

The pH of the skin is about 5.5, which is the optimal pH needed for the skin to fight off infection, bacteria, yeasts and potential viruses. 

Using harsh soaps, which are alkaline in nature, alters the pH of the skin, leaving it susceptible to the invasion of the yeasts that perpetuate this condition.

The use of antibacterial soaps kill the normal bacterial flora needed to fight the growth of the yeast.

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In my view, many of Dr. Yap’s findings may be applied to the wider Caribbean, and possibly to other areas of the world where such conditions and/ or practices, as listed above, are found.

Seborrheic Eczema/ Dermatitis is a treatable condition, you do not have to live with its symptoms for the rest of your life.

When present on the scalp in it’s mildest form, this condition can be rectified by washing hair regularly, at least 2-3 times a week – not necessarily everyday because then you may develop other issues, especially if your hair is naturally dry. 

For other acute forms, or if for some reason you are unable to wash your hair that regularly, seek the advice of a dermatologist. Seborrheic Eczema/ Dermatitis shows up very differently in darker skins than it does in lighter skins, so if you fall in the former category, it would be in your best interest to seek the advice of a dermatologists who specializes in black skin.

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Source, (Reproduced with permission):

Pamphlet: “This Thing called Dry, Itchy, Scalp”, Dr. Patricia Yap -  MBBS, Dip. Derm.; F.A.A.D

Presentation: “Seborrheic Dermatitis: The Jamaican Experience”, – Dr. Patricia Yap -  MBBS, Dip. Derm.; F.A.A.D

Dr. Yap is a dermatologist practicing in Jamaica. She is a member of the Dermatology Association of Jamaica and a Fellow of the American Academy of Dermatology.  She runs her own practice at:

Apex Skin and Laser Centre
2A Molynes Road
Kingston 10
Jamaica W.I.

 

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Two thousand and Zen | Spa Etiquette

14 01 2010

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Now that all the festivities are over, and life has (more or less) returned to normal, there is no better time than the present to cash in your Spa gift certificate.

Let’s face it, if you don’t now, it will probably either expire or get lost in the ‘things to do’ for 2010. This is a slow period for Spas, so chances are that you will get your treatment straight up and in order, and may even get a few freebies thrown in.

As fun and relaxing as Spas can be, there are certain things that you ought to know and do as a client that, when practiced, can enhance your experience. As there are a lot of protocols at Spas (most of which aren’t articulated upfront) not knowing what these protocols are can indeed result in you having a lousy experience even at the most high end of Spas.

When next you are making your way to a Spa, especially if you are a first timer, heed the following to ensure the best experience possible. The following goes for both men and women:

1. Figure out what treatment you are going for in advance

Call, stop by or visit the Spa’s website for information on all the treatments and services, and their respective costs before the day you wish to get a treatment done. It will save you time, a whole lot of hassle and you wouldn’t frustrate the person at the front desk while you try to figure out what treatment you want, when your slot time is in 10 minutes. 

2. Reschedule your appointment if you are sick

This is just common courtesy people. Spa therapists work hard at their jobs, and their bread and butter depends on it. They come into contact with a lot of people on a daily basis and that alone can stretch an immune system to the max. Don’t be selfish; ain’t nobody want your germs, that’s just nasty.

If you find yourself coming down with something, call the Spa ahead of time to reschedule your appointment. Please. 

And while you’re at it…

3. Understand the cancellation policy

Spa’s normally have a cancellation policy; one usually has to give at least 24 hours notice before canceling a treatment, otherwise you will still be charged anywhere from half to the full price of the treatment. 

Treatment beds/ rooms in Spas are usually limited so just because you aren’t considerate enough to alert them that you will not be coming in, for whatever reason, doesn’t mean that they should lose money.

Call  or check the Spa’s website for the cancellation policy.

4. Arrive EARLY

Not on time folks, early. I’d say about 15 minutes before your scheduled treatment time.

There is usually a consultation form(s) that needs to be filled out prior to any treatment. This laundry list of questions can range anywhere from your basic contact information to your health and lifestyle choices.

Spa treatments aren’t like Salon (Hair) treatments. In a salon you pay for a service i.e. if you are paying for a colour, cut and blow out service, you pay the same whether your stylist takes 1 hour or 10 hours to complete it. Your stylist can’t exactly stop your service and have you walk out with half your hair coloured and in foils when “ooopps!” your 2 hours are up.

With Spa treatments however, you pay for time. That is to say, if you paid for a 1 hour hot stone massage from 9 am to 10 am, then 9 am – 10 am alone is your time. If you choose to reach for 9 am, spend 15 minutes filling out your consultation forms, and then 5 minutes to change into your robe, understand you will then pay full price for 40 minute (or less) massage. Boo hoo to you.

5. Be honest

Spa therapists aren’t clairvoyant.

They have no idea what’s going on with you or what personal issues you have, neither do they care. This is not to say that they do not want the best for you, nor that they aren’t friendly, loving, caring people. However, although they readily listen and empathize with a lot of people’s personal stuff, they aren’t qualified psychologists, and can’t tell what’s going on with you by what you don’t say.

Spa therapists are there to provide you with the best treatment possible, depending on your specific needs and conditions. 

Depending on your desired service, consultation questions may include, but are not limited to:

- Any previous surgeries, or pregnancies

- Implants, embedded metallic plates,

- Medical conditions e.g. epilepsy, HIV, diabetes, cancer.

- Lifestyle – e.g. Sun exposure, alcohol & water intake, frequency with which you exercise, diet

- Medication you are on or have been on for the past year.

Do be prepared to answer these honestly, as dishonest answers can result in serious complications, especially if you are interested in Medical Spa Treatments such as Chemical Peels, Laser or Intense Pulse Light (IPL) treatments.

If not it, will be left up to you to deal with any complications that you may develop after a specific medical treatment, because the document that you signed (and quite possibly didn’t read through) waives the Spa and the Spa therapist from all responsibility of possible complications, as a result of you not taking the time to be honest with yourself. 

6. Speak up and ask questions

Bed inclination, lighting and room temperature for example can all be adjusted. Remember you are the client, all this pampering is being done to make you comfortable. Speak up and ask questions about anything that either makes you uncomfortable, that you would like changed, particularly enjoy or would prefer more of. 

If you are at the Spa enjoying a service with a group of friends, treatments to the hands and feet  for example, do remember to use your inside voices out of respect to your fellow ‘Spasians’. Turn off cell phones, or put them on silent – vibration mode is sometimes just as noisy as a ringtone, especially if the phone is vibrating on a wooden or plastic table. 

Be pleasant, especially if you are enjoying your service. Spa therapists know a lot of ways that your treatment may be upgraded, and they are only human; even though there is a protocol for performing services, it is not uncommon for them to throw in a few extras, from massage movements to product samples, to those clients who make their work worthwhile.

7. Avoid perfume/ cologne.

Ladies, this also goes for makeup. Your therapist can remove it, no worries, but taking the time to remove makeup that is caked on, during facial treatments for example, will cut into your treatment time. 

Heavy perfume scents can totally throw off the Zen in a Spa environment.

8. Tip

This entire Spa deal may be a luxury for you, but it’s a livelihood for your Spa Therapist(s).

Most therapists, especially entry level ones, aren’t normally paid much more than minimum wage, and so they depend heavily on tips. TIPS (To Insure Proper Service), is your way of showing appreciation for a service well performed.

Like with all other professions, all therapists aren’t created equal. There are crack-shot doctors and there are crack-shot therapists. To be a great therapist requires unparalleled dedication to what you do, and to the people on whom you work. It’s a job that’s requires stamina, physical strength as well as mental strength to deal with some of you clients who are having a bad day. Mhm… we’ve all dealt with some of those.

So, if you’ve experienced an excellent treatment, or you thought that your Spa therapist really paid attention to detail and did a great job, please tip.

The industry standard is 20%

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Organize yourself accordingly, and move to suit.

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