Lets keep it together ladies.

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You worked hard for the honey.

You put forward your best self, remembered to be engaging, to smile, to stand upright and to endure those awfully painful shoes. You even read up on sports a bit, skimming the Sports section of your Internet homepage, the section you never ever read before. Your hair and nails were always correct, legs and otherwise hair-free and you maintained your form by remembering to consume your veges and followed tips from Bob and Jillian on the Biggest Loser. You are always happy now, because of course, now you’re ‘dating‘. Life is great, you are your best self.

So now you got him already. What next?

You soon realise that getting him is not even half the battle you thought it was. It is only AFTER you have him you look around and think… “well THAT wasn’t so damn hard. What the hell was all the fuss about”.

You realize that you’re not so shabby, as a matter of fact you are pretty freakin’ awesome. You got ish going on, why wouldn’t he want to be with you? And so comfort starts to kick in. 

Time passes, things happen… and don’t happen in your relationship, but that’s life. It happens to everybody doesn’t it.

You’ve read tips on various websites on things you can do or introduce to ‘spice’ up the relationship. Positions that you MUST try, contraptions you MUST buy, stuff you MUST ingest to ignite that FYAH!!!. You read and think that the writer may be unto something, and that people’s relationships must really suck out there if this is what they have to resort to,  and you smile thanking yourself that your relationship isn’t that messed up. 

Then one day you find yourself staring in the mirror wondering just how you reached to ‘this’ point and where it went all wrong.

Being in a relationship is not an excuse to let all the chickens out the coop. Personality and inner beauty are great yes, this keeps the love alive, but there is more to an intimate relationship. Forever is a long time, the fyah needs to be kept ablazing. It’s pretty difficult to get the sexy on when your partner can’t remember that you have a waist under that there muumuu. A little upkeep goes a long way.

~ Make yourself your first priority
Schedule some “you” time for if you wait for it to find you, it wouldn’t. Take some time to relax, and find the time to groom. Schedule a pedicure or give yourself one. Get some dead sea salts or some shower gel and soak your feet for a bit. When you are finished give your soles a lil scrub-a-dub and pass some polish on those nails. It doesn’t have to take you whole day. With proper maintenance it’s just a quick fix every couple weeks. Pick up a body scrub at the pharmacy. Change your hairstyle. Try a new lip gloss. Remember that you have other friends and give your relationship time to breathe. The possibilities are endless. Customize yours.

~ Get measured and invest in good underwear.
It helps keep the girls where they are supposed to be and in the line of sight. It is said that most women wear the wrong underwear size. It also helps improve your posture and they way you feel. Get  at least one itiem in a pretty colour; it doesn’t have to be red and lace, but this combo would definitely help, but really anything but ‘nude’.

~ Keep hair levels under wraps
The season has changed not your partner. Whatever method you use, make hair removal a priority. Eyebrows, arms, legs, underarms… Customize it however you like.

~ Get your own clothes.
Yes it was cute when you wore his shirt when you spent the night by him back in the day. But as you guys are now living in the same house, the novelity has worn off. Get your own ‘comfy’ clothing. ‘Comfy’ doesn’t necessarily mean oversized, it just means comfortable; they don’t constrict but they FIT. I’m not a big fan of sweats in general, but I do understand the need for them during the winter on occasion and, so that we are clear, anything outside of the confines of your home doesn’t qualify as an ‘occasion‘. So by all means sure, but at least honey get your own sweats. Ones that fit so that your rear doesn’t look floppier than you already think it is, because then the question “does my butt look fat” is just an argument waiting to happen.

~ Close one eye
Pick your battles. Noone likes a kill joy party-pooper. Perfection is in the eye of the beholder and yes that also that refers to how you want those chores are done. Quit complaining already, it’s not very attractive.

~ Smile
Enjoy your relationship. It’s all that you ever wanted and now you have it.

Mhmmm, there is a laundry list of things that your man can attend to, like that gut for example, but as we run the ish up in this bish, let us lead by example.

Besides, they are now busy manscaping, so one hurdle at a time.

Just because there is a clause in the vow that says that you are in it for life doesn’t mean that you have to get too comfortable.

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It's that time of year

Halloween. The time when we get to reveal our inner $2 hooker and disturbed serial killer. Interesting times. 

I never got this ‘celebration’ so I don’t have any supercool ideas of where to go, what to do, where to get the best costume. Therefore I’ll keep it brief and get it moving.

For us adults, we’ve read it numerous times that we ought to take even more precaution than we would any other club night that is filled with drunken stupour:

~ Arrive Alive, Don’t Drink & Drive
~ Keep in groups
~ Eat well before you drink etc.

However, for all my parents with young kids who participate in this activity, there are some pointers I feel compelled to share. For example:

On that note, why do some people come out looking like Lada Gaga everyday? It’s not even Halloween yet biatch.

Anyways, I digress, back to the kids

1. Children should be accompanied by an adult
2. Children should wear clothing that can easily be seen at night. Retro-reflective materials are best
3. Children should trick or treat in one well-known area and not wander into unknown neighbourhoods 
4. All candy should be inspected by an adult to make sure that no one has tampered with it. If it looks suspicious, the police should be contacted
5. Children should avoid stray animals (humans included)
6. Children should wear masks that do not interfere with vision. Better yet they can avoid masks my wearing makeup
7. Children should watch for moving vehicles when crossing streets
8. Costumes should be short enough that the child will not trip
9. Trick or treaters should dress appropriately for the weather and carry a flashlight
10. For extra safety, organize a Halloween party for your children in your neighbourhood.

An extra special shout out to all parents with young girl children…..HEEEEEEYYYYYY!!! *snap*

I know they may really want this particular costume since everyone else in their class thinks it’s ‘cool’… after all we are bombared with hyper-sexualized media hourly, so as a result there is the unnecessary pressure to be a ‘cool’ parent these days BUT 

*A 9 year old girl dressed as a dominatrix is not a good look, as the only people who really think this is a good idea are pedophiles and pervs.*

Read. Repeat. Recycle.

If during that process your mind flashes back to the costume that’s in your child’s closet, never fear there is plenty of time to get a new one. As Halloween is just a couple days away, there are plenty of sales to take advantage of. How smart are you!

Children depend on us for direction and safety so please let us take our responsibility safety. 

Consider this your friendly PSA

Have a safe Halloween!

Toodles,

Supernova

Q/A: Skin type vs. Skin condition

“Is there a difference between skin type and skin condition?”

Yes there is; the terms are not interchangeable.

Skin type is genetically determined and cannot be changed.
However, each skin type can be managed through proper skin care, balanced nutrition and physical activity for example.

There are 4 skin types:

1. Normal skin
It is neither dry, nor oily and has no underlying skin conditions. Very very rare especially with changing climatic conditions (see below). 

2. Dry skin – skin lacks oil
Dry skin (lacking oil) is not to be confused with dehydrated skin which lacks water (see below).

Some characteristics of dry skin type are:
~ skin pores are very small, sometimes not visible to the eye
~ skin feels tight shortly after cleansing, and sometimes even after moisturizing (in this event opt for a thicker moisturizing cream)
~ you avoid smiling in the event your skin splits

3. Oily skin – skin lacks water
This skin type feels oily after shortly after cleansing. Some characteristics of this skin type are:
~ Visible skin pores
~ prone to acne
~ comedones (whiteheads and/or blackheads) present
~ by midday your face feels like it’s sliding off

4. Combination/ Oily
This skin type is most common. Common characteristics include:
~ Oily in the T-Zone (forehead, nose and chin areas) and dry in the cheeks. 
~ Blackheads in T-Zone
~ Some days you don’t want to risk smiling and some days your face feels like it’s slipping off.

Each skin type may be affected by various underlying skin conditions. A skin condition is really the skin’s reaction to external elements and may change from day to day, season to season, or with aging,  Some common skin conditions are:

~ Acne
~ Dehydration (lacking water)
~ Roeacea
~ Hyper-pigmentation (dark spots)
~ Hypo-pigmentation (white spots)
~ Aging 
~ Sensitive 

 Several factors can affect the condition of our skins including:

~ Climate/ Seasonal changes
~ Environmental pollution
~ Diet
~ Stress level
~ Medication
~ Smoking
~ Ultraviolet Rays (UVRs), largely from the sun.

Any skin type can be affected by various skin conditions. It is therefore possible to have dry skin that is sensitive, or oily skin that is dehydrated.

N.B - It is a common misconception that dry skin needs more water and oily skin needs less oil, a huge reason why people with oily skins choose not to moisturize.

However, dry skin needs more OIL and oily skin needs more WATER.
For tips on choosing the right moisturizer for your skin see article here >  Should I moisturize?

Skin consultations by qualified estheticians are usually as a complementary service, so be sure to check around and see if you can get your skin analyzed in the event that you are unsure of your skin condition.

Toodles!

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Random music quote of the day

” …I can see clearly now the rain is gone,
I can see all obstacles in my way, 
Gone are the dark clouds that had me down, 
it’s gonna be a bright… sun shiny day…” 

- I Can See Clearly Now, Jimmy Cliff

Being able to see obstacles puts us in a better position to overcome them.

Have a Wonderful Wednesday!

Supernova