It’s not me, it’s you

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Society would like us to believe that we are the problem. As a result we try our best to fit in, to cater to,  and to be something that we are essentially not. We play nicely with others, hold back that thought and be polite just so that everyone else can be happy. What’s really hood with that. What about me dammit? How about I be happy for a change.  Sometimes all the patience and smiles in the world is not enough and only a good ole’ swing of the cutlass will do the trick. *SLISH!*

We grow out of our clothing, habits, shoes, social events and dare I say we grow out of people. Interests change. WE change, and not everyone can keep up  or at the very least accept the sheer pace that comes along with greatness. 

As much as we may not like to say it aloud, all people aren’t created equal and as such not everyone was meant to be in our lives. 

There are times when certain relationships just don’t work anymore. Try as we may, there seems to be a disconnect somewhere and we wonder if we are missing something, some really big part of the puzzle. We make sure to carefully edit the things we say or don’t say, we meditate on the things we do and don’t do in their presence and even still we never seem to get it right. We don’t even recognise ourself in the relationship anymore and just being around the person is a chore because we aren’t allowed to be ourselves. We aren’t free to talk about our successes for fear of trampelling on their dream for themselves, because apparently only one dream in this life can be fulfilled and it ain’t ours!

We can’t seek inspiration from these individuals, because they just are incapable of dreaming the kaleidoscopic dream that we can. We want more for ourselves and they are content in reliving the glory days of the past rather than embracing the splendor of the present and the untapped potential of the future. Still, we kill ourselves bending backward to make it work because after all this relationship is part of who we are, it’s what we’ve known most of our life.

Or is it?

Relationships change. Just as there are relationships that take on a greater significance – like the long lost high-school friend you came to partner with to form a highly successful company, there are some that just slowly fizzle and become a dud. *pphhhssssshhhhh*

Just like our yards, apartments and ourselves, at times we need to clean our social/ personal circle. Keep the positive and release the negative vibes. There is something to be said for decluttering our personal lives. We ought to click the edit button on the operating system of our lives and examine the key players. Who are they? The ones who support us to become the person that we would like to be, let us cherish them for in this age of ‘instant friendship’, *social networking site names withheld*, this is not easy to come by.  Then, consider giving the ones who don’t that pink slip.

The fact that a relationship doesn’t work need not turn into a blame game. It can be as simple as ‘its not working’.

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It’s not me, it’s you.

Photo: Danilo Rizzuti / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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HELP! My skin is schizo

Ever think that your skin is playing tricks on you? You’ve finally gotten your breakouts under control and then ‘HELLO’ a congregation of zits greet you in the morning. Or perhaps one day your skin feels ‘oily’ and the other day it feels ‘dry’. STEUPS!

Several factors can affect the condition of our skins including:

~ Climate/ Seasonal changes
~ Environmental pollution
~ Diet
~ Stress level
~ Medication
~ Smoking
~ Ultraviolet Rays (UVRs), largely from the sun.

Lets look at these more closely:

1. Seasonal changes 

It is typical that skin feels ‘drier’ during cooler months and ‘oilier’ during warmer months. Just like you would not wear shorts and sandals during the winter months, it is wise to change your skin care products to adapt to the changing weather.

For example the harsh outdoor wind chill combined with the forced heat indoors create havoc on our skin. Usually we tend to purchase a thicker, more moisturizing body lotion and likewise we should do the same for our faces. This is especially important for people who have a more dry skin type. You may want to consider a cream cleanser (not sudsy, but rather a creamy texture) combined with a moisturizing lotion (contains a moisturizing ingredient like Vitamin E, Cocoa Butter or Shea butter for example as it’s first ingredient).

Likewise, our skins may feel oilier in the summer months. Persons with an oily skin type may find it useful to use an acne-fighting cleanser to help control breakouts, combined with a hydrating moisturizer (contains water or similar ingredient like Hyaluronic Acid as its first ingredient).

Tropical island inhabiters may not have these issues. 

2. Environmental pollution
From coming into contact with chemicals to inhaling toxic fumes, pollution can cause increased sensitivity in skin leaving it red, much like as in an allergic reaction. If you live in a metropolitan area, unfortunately there is not much you can do to avoid coming into contact with these fumes. It is therefore important that these pollutants are removed from you skin at night before bed. If not during sleep all the dirt and pollutants that were collected on your face during the day is further pressed into your pores while you sleep at night. 

3. Diet
So the jury is still out on whether chocolates give you pimples. Maybe this was started by someone who was anti-Valentines day or by someone who was allergic to chocolate, either way chocolate in your diet is the least of your worries. There are larger diet issues to worry about such as:

~ Foods with a high sugar content
Excess calories. Sugar, and not fat, is the bigger enemy my friends. Diabetes is standing right outside your door with this one.

~ Heavily fried and seasoned foods

~ High alcohol/ caffeine intake 
Dehydrates the skin. For every two cups of coffee two cups of water are needed to put your body back in balance.

4. Stress level
We’ve all heard that ‘stress can kill you’. It can also result in breakouts. There are only 24 hours in a day for a reason. Prioritize and deal with critical items one at a time.

~ Medication
Certain medications can make your skin more sensitive to the sun. If you are on any medication ask your doctor about the possible effects of the medication on your skin.

5. Smoking
Accelerates aging of skin and aids in the development of fine lines and wrinkles around the mouth area.

6. Ultraviolet Rays (UVRs)
Contributes to the destruction of skin cells which accelerates aging. See Sunkissed Beauty

Hmmm!

Act like you know.

Supernova

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