It’s not me, it’s you
Friday, October 30th, 2009
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Society would like us to believe that we are the problem. As a result we try our best to fit in, to cater to, and to be something that we are essentially not. We play nicely with others, hold back that thought and be polite just so that everyone else can be happy. What’s really hood with that. What about me dammit? How about I be happy for a change. Sometimes all the patience and smiles in the world is not enough and only a good ole’ swing of the cutlass will do the trick. *SLISH!*
We grow out of our clothing, habits, shoes, social events and dare I say we grow out of people. Interests change. WE change, and not everyone can keep up or at the very least accept the sheer pace that comes along with greatness.
As much as we may not like to say it aloud, all people aren’t created equal and as such not everyone was meant to be in our lives.
There are times when certain relationships just don’t work anymore. Try as we may, there seems to be a disconnect somewhere and we wonder if we are missing something, some really big part of the puzzle. We make sure to carefully edit the things we say or don’t say, we meditate on the things we do and don’t do in their presence and even still we never seem to get it right. We don’t even recognise ourself in the relationship anymore and just being around the person is a chore because we aren’t allowed to be ourselves. We aren’t free to talk about our successes for fear of trampelling on their dream for themselves, because apparently only one dream in this life can be fulfilled and it ain’t ours!
We can’t seek inspiration from these individuals, because they just are incapable of dreaming the kaleidoscopic dream that we can. We want more for ourselves and they are content in reliving the glory days of the past rather than embracing the splendor of the present and the untapped potential of the future. Still, we kill ourselves bending backward to make it work because after all this relationship is part of who we are, it’s what we’ve known most of our life.
Or is it?
Relationships change. Just as there are relationships that take on a greater significance – like the long lost high-school friend you came to partner with to form a highly successful company, there are some that just slowly fizzle and become a dud. *pphhhssssshhhhh*
Just like our yards, apartments and ourselves, at times we need to clean our social/ personal circle. Keep the positive and release the negative vibes. There is something to be said for decluttering our personal lives. We ought to click the edit button on the operating system of our lives and examine the key players. Who are they? The ones who support us to become the person that we would like to be, let us cherish them for in this age of ‘instant friendship’, *social networking site names withheld*, this is not easy to come by. Then, consider giving the ones who don’t that pink slip.
The fact that a relationship doesn’t work need not turn into a blame game. It can be as simple as ‘its not working’.
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It’s not me, it’s you.
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I lOOooooooooOOOOve this!!! THANKS!!!
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