Random music quote of the day

“When a red hot man meets a white hot lady… Soon the fire starts a raging gets ‘em more than half crazy“

- Headlong, Queen

Epic fashion failure

Lets face it, some of us are in dire need of getting it together. We all have our moments. This is not about wearing couture, but rather about taking that extra 5 seconds to stand in front the mirror and ask yourself “Is this the conversation that I wish to have with the world today?”, and wait for the answer because the answer is crucial.

Fashion has evolved today to the point where there are fashion choices for all regardless of size and personal style preference – Tall, short, pleasantly plump, lean, mean and everything in between. In any one season there are a variety of looks to rock; preppy, boho chic, sofisticated, biker, trendy, your personal remix; it is really an era of flexibility in personal style at it’s best. Thanks to a failing economy, designers just want to get their ish out there there so that somebody, anybody can help them pay their mortgage. Fashion choices are available at all different price points and, with the right pairings, a look can be easily made yours by recycling it with one or two new pieces that you love with the well fitting pieces that you currently own. Have a clear direction to your look. Fit is key.

There is no need to wear the latest trend head to toe to put your best self on display… I’m just saying. We are no longer in high-school. If you are going to put out the moolah that is already so hard to come by these days, why look like it’s forever a costume party? It’s all about choices my friends. If you are going to buy something then buy something that works. Even if you only want it to work for a night, it must work dammit or you are wasting your money and everyone else’s energy, as they now have to converse with people who they don’t even want to talk to, all because they can’t quite find what it takes to tell you that your get-up is not the business. Come on now, we are too fabulous for that, all everyone wants to do is drink and be merry.

On that note, I respect any direction in the name of fashion and personal style. However, if you choose to go with a particular look, the very least you can do is commit to it for after all you did choose it. It is said that examples improve clarity so lets see how best we can do this.

My fair ladies, dressing like a street-walker only works if you are willing to both act like one and own it. The fiercest mini tube dress on the most banging body just does not look quite right if the girl who is wearing it is antisocial because she is preoccupied with tugging at it ALL NIGHT LONG.

My good and gentle men, this also applies to you. The painted on Under Armour tee with the women’s skinny jeans steez will only work if you look like you know that you dressed yourself and yes you are sure that that’s the look you are going for. It is distracting when you are attached to the corner wall of the dance, and takes away from your intended purpose of making people, regardless of gender, want you and want to be you. Instead you look ridiculous and, at the very least, uncomfortable.

I can go on about this forever but I’ve decided to focus and keep it moving.

Dress for who you are and own it. It’s the confidence that comes with knowing who we are and being comfortable with ourselves that translates into the grown ‘n sexy swag. The Swexy.

There are some fashion…. choices that just mess with my system. My brain detects the composition in the distance as a foreign entity and instinctively alerts the relevant systems to just destroy it. Just thinking about it my body is already low on resources, so I will leave my fashion faux pas (“OF ALL TIME Y’ALL”) for another day.

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Just one step away from being labeled “Hater”

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Sometimes there are people around us that… well lets just say we aren’t too sure if they are on our side or theirs.

I mean it’s hard to tell. They aren’t mean to us. It’s not like they backstab or anything, and they aren’t checking our significant other. They are always around us, always in our corner always there when we screw up sure, but they just can’t seem to say the thing that we need them to say. It’s not that you are looking for a sugar rush, or to be told just how badly we tanked because we were there when it happened, every millisecond of the way. A real and forward looking perspective never hurt nobody. Sometimes we are just looking for that… I don’t know that, ‘way forward’ maybe? Maybe it’s just me. 

So because we haven’t found any valid reason to pitch them off our 9 sq. ft. of personal planet space yet, we allow them to stay with the expectation that one day, sometime soon, they will say something at some inopportune moment that will entirely make us question the real purpose of the relationship yet again. But we hold on to be belief that they will turn around and say that very thing that we know that they are capable of saying, because we believe in them. I’ve had a couple of relationships like that in my lifetime, but that’s not what I really meant to talk about me and my friends today so I’ll come back to that.

This, however, is a shout out post to the blatant naysayers, because sometimes there is no greater motivation than to prove someone, who you know deep down means well, wrong. Understand, this is not a shout out to the “haters”, as they have issues that lie within themselves that they choose to project on us and I’m not qualified to speak of issues of this nature as my only response involves the word ‘ignore’. So yes, this is for the people in our lives who definitely know that we are on the path to destruction, so much so that they formulate an intervention to save us from ourselves. 

I once had a teacher in high-school who absolutely, positively refused to give me even a barely passing grade in Form 3 English, because she was adamant that I did not produce the work that I had submitted for the year. For everyone who’s confused by this, Form 3 is a grade in Caribbean high schools that is key for students because this is the grade from which, if you made it this far, the education system threatens that the La-La land that you are currently floating around in now ends and the blue-print for the rest of your life has now begun. It is the transition where you choose the direction you would like to pursue in life by choosing your ‘subjects’ and of course you weren’t permitted to choose anything you failed that term.

My parents were called in, the principal got involved and it was all very messy because, as she put it, what I have been doing was an ‘atrocity’ and she made it a point to get to the bottom of why I would be so disturbed to continually do something like submit work that wasn’t mine, after all it is considered an offense. Long story short, English (language) was/is a compulsory subject for everyone to take in high-school so after all the flapping and clucking, a failing grade or not, there I was, somewhere in the middle-row seat of the Form 4 Sciences English class. Although I knew that I produced all those English essays, even after a distinction in CXC English, for the rest of my life since then I always doubted my ability to write and leaned on my gift in Math and Science related subjects. Its not that I felt defeated, but that conviction just wasn’t there and there was always some lingering doubt that would rear it’s ugly head from time to time whenever I was required to produce anything, including myself, that was open to public scrutiny.

Fast forward some 17 years (?) I am sitting at home when I receive a call that I have been awarded the Jose Pinguelo General Education Award at the school that I had just graduated from a little over a month ago. I am totally confused now, because the address states “The School of Liberal Arts & Sciences” I automatically think that they have gotten the wrong address if only because I had attended “The Business School”. After clear and present bewilderment, I look at the letter again and it clearly states my name. Now I’m frantically shuffling through my mental archives, when I remember that time the professor of the course “Sociology of the Family”, one of three Liberal Arts courses I sat in the program, pulled me aside one time after class and asked my permission to submit a couple of the pieces that I done for the course; in particular an assessment of the media content of one of my favorite shows, “Sex and the City”, and an interview project that I was required to do on the effects on Divorce on the lives of 4 different individuals. Surely, this couldn’t be it though because, of course, “I don’t write THAT well…” I tell myself. 

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Funny how we have a tendency to have the negative script on repeat in our subconscious and the positive script that we are told anew everyday by strangers, with nothing to gain, do not register. Looking back I can’t quite recount how many times I’ve been told by others, including my Aunt who is an extraordinarily gifted journalist, that I write well; I’ve always accepted that she says it but I never quite believed it. 

This award, and the fact that I’m now writing articles for a living, is for you high-school teacher. It goes out to all those people we have had in our lives that are just that ONE step away from being labelled a “hater” because we are convinced, for whatever reason, that deep down inside they do really care.

“Yes I can”

Yes, I’ve considered removing that phrase and replacing it with some term as equally enthralling so that I don’t come across sounding terribly clichéd, but you know what, this is an article from the heart and that’s what the heart wants to say, so it stays. 

Be blessed.

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The Randomness

” If that’s the way you want it baby, then I don’t want you around ”  

~ Take it on the run, REO Speedwagon

Some destinations just don’t require checked luggage.

Have a Terrific Thursday!

Supernova

Slip, Slop, Slap, and Wrap

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We’ve all been there.

 An advertisement highlighting the damaging effects of the sun comes on and we think back to the time we wanted  a tan so badly we slathered our limbs with baby oil and beached ourselves on the sand.

 We’ve since, hopefully, learnt that this is not a good idea, and so we retired the baby oil and moved to the tanning  oil, the SPF 2 one.

Someone mentioned that this upgrade wasn’t a really much of one so we further upgraded to a SPF 15, the only problem is that we never remember to apply it the how-many-hours-before sun exposure and the how-many-hours-after being exposed to the sun.

We usually find some crafty reason we didn’t use sunscreen this morning with/in our moisturizer but the truth is that we really don’t think it’s that important because we protect ourselves otherwise, besides it’s not like we are beaching ourselves on the sand for the whole day. 

I was researching some info for SunKissed beauty the other day and came across this interesting list of sun exposure myths on sunsmart.org.nz .It’s a website from New Zealand (trust me to find it) so I’ve adapted it a bit. They have identified the top sun exposure myths as follows:

It’s not possible to get sunburnt on cloudy days.

False. You can get sunburnt on cloudy days as some ultraviolet radiation (UVR) penetrates cloud cover. Under partly cloudy skies UVR levels can be high, and even increase, due to reflection from clouds.

The wind burnt me, not the sun.

False. It is UVR from the sun that causes skin to burn. Wind lowers the temperature of the air making it easy to forget that the UVR from the sun is still strong.

I tan easily so my skin is less likely to be damaged.

False. Any exposure to UVR has the potential to cause skin damage. Burning and peeling are signs some damage has already occurred – even if it turns into a tan. The tan you develop won’t protect you from the harmful effects of the sun.

I can’t get sunburnt through glass.

False. Glass reduces but does not block transmission of all UVR. It typically transmits about 10 percent of the UVR. People who spend long periods in a car, or next to a window receiving direct sunlight should use sun protection.

I have had sunburn but now I protect my skin, so I am safe from developing skin cancer.

False. You can’t undo any damage that may have already occurred to your skin but you should prevent future sunburn to minimise any further risk.

Sunscreen blocks out the sun.

False. Sunscreen should not be used as a means of staying out in the sun longer. When exposure to the summer sun is unavoidable, sunscreen is the last line of defence to reduce the risk of sun damage to your skin. No sunscreen will completely shield you from the effects of UVR. Many people apply sunscreen at less than the recommended thickness, so reducing its effectiveness.

People with tans or dark skin don’t sunburn.

False. If your skin turns brown it is a sign of sun damage – even if there is no redness or peeling. If you tan easily or have dark skin you are still at risk of skin cancer and should use sun protection.

‘Burn time’ is 20 minutes therefore I am safe in the sun within this timeframe.

False. A time indication for how long it will take your skin to burn is not accurate, so really there is no such thing as ‘burn time’. People have different skin types and therefore some burn quicker than others. 

Suntans are healthy.

False. There is no such thing as a safe or healthy tan. It does not improve your body’s ability to protect yourself from the sun. Some exposure to the sun for vitamin D is healthy, but most people get enough vitamin D through normal daily activity – even with sun protection.

I’m sure this was not a mean attempt to freak people out but it might as well have been.

They do suggest that you slip, slop, slap and wrap…. Interesting, I like i.e. 

SLIP on a shirt
SLOP on some sunscreen
SLAP on a hat and
WRAP on a pair of sunglasses.

Reminds me of that ‘SlapChop’ commercial on TV where the guy says “Making America thinner, one SLAP at a time!” LOL. If only.

Source: SunSmart

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Smooth Criminal

Yesssssssss. Ya just gotta love that feeling of touching that smooooooth i-wanna-eat-it skin. Or that gloooowing gotta-touch-it, i-want it skin.

Some people are just so blessed. They eat all the junk, they never exercise, they drink, they smoke, they don’t sleep and yet… everything looks like it functions just fine. Or like those people who can manage to pack on unbelieveable pounds and still be alive long enough to get a reality show, while the gym bunny, who is slimmer than you are, is diagnosed with ‘normal weight obesity’ and is now living at the doctor’s office ’cause she’s at a “fatal risk for heart disease”. Yes, genetics a b!tch on a rocket stick.

Our skin is constantly shedding (skin cell turnover) cells and replacing them with new ones. It is the fresh new, hydrated and well nourished cells that impart this glow, and the dead skin cells that are just hanging around that can contribute to a dull sallow look on body. Skin cell turnover occurs naturally but slows down with age, and by ‘with age’ it is meant 25 years old or so.

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…*crickets*…

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Some of us are in the peak of the turnover party… yeeaaah!… Cherish it. For some of us memories of that mosh pit are a tad spotty but thankfully there are ways that we can assist our body in doing it’s thing and achieving this sexy glow by means of ~ Body Exfoliation.

In general exfoliation is the process of removing dead skin cells and can result in 
~ Healthier skin complexion and clarity
~ Unclogs follicles and pores allowing skin to ‘breathe’ better and for better penetration of moisturizers, lotions and serums 
~ Improves skin texture and makes it smoother (aka mas sexy!) 
~ Other skin function such as stimulating skin’s overall functions, increasing circulation, energizing superficial lymphatic flow and stimulates nerve endings…

That’s a lot of stimulation right thuurr! … but that’s another topic 

Now, this process of removing dead cells can be done manually or chemically.

Manual exfoliation stimulates circulation and involves the use of physical force (like rubbing) for example using a dry brush, mitts, loofahs, and a whole host of natural substances  like salt (detoxifies skin), sugar (moisturizes skin), cornmeal and ground coffee (said to be good to help minimize the look of cellulite) mixed with water, oils or creams. Most of these natural substances can already be found in your home and *secret* ~ are the ingredients that are often used in high end Spas for that ‘natural’ experience. Makes you think!

In chemical exfoliation an ingredient(s) or ‘chemical(s)’ in the product (acids or enzymes) do the work and no physical rubbing is required as the ingredient itself dissolves the dead skin cells. A little creepy sounding but it works amazingly well. Some of these acids/ enzymes are  found in common fruits such as papaya/paw paw, strawberries and pineapple. (food.Yum!) A common chemical exfoliation not found in food is salicylic acid, which usually found in acne treatment products. 

Along with a healthy diet and lifestyle (ever realize how many times you hear that? lol) regular exfoliation (once or twice a week) is a great way to achieve softer, healthier, more touchable skin. However there are some precautions that should be taken when adopting a exfoliating regime for the body like avoid use on:

~ open wounds
~ surgical procedures where skin should not be moved
~ sensitive areas like varicose veins, open wounds, infection or inflammation
~ sunburns (see Sunkissed beauty)

Additionally salt and other exfoliates that dissolve (like sugar) should not be used immediately after waxing as this can potentially irritate skin. Aggressive exfoliation, involving larger, sharper, non-circular granules like cornmeal & ground coffee should be avoided on sensitive skin. And by all means in the excitement of having goddess skin do not over-exfoliate or rub too hard or fast (thank goodness I’m sharing this as a verbally cause I’m cracking to hell up) as over exfoliation can damage your skin and can lead to scarring in skin that is prone to hyper-pigmentation (or darkening)… so easy on the rubbing.

You know you want to. Go get your grind on.

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Sunkissed beauty

Fall is here and the last of the brilliant summer days have long gone. For my fellow temperate climate earthlings, this is an unfortunate reality. For everyone basking in tropical paradise on permanent vacay… live it up!

The body does need sufficient amounts of UVRs in order to generate Vitamin D. A study by the University of California-San Diego School of Medicine shows that vitamin D has been found to help boost the immune system in its attempt to heal wounds (here), good stuff! Low levels of Vitamin D/ light have also been found to be associated with depression (here), not-so-good stuff. So this is not meant to address moderate sun exposure but rather sun-exposure as a sport.

What are ultraviolet rays?

The sun gives energy in the form of light waves of different lengths and intensity. The sunlight we see is called visible light. Ultraviolet radiation (UVR) is located just above visible light. UVR is divided into different energy levels from longest to shortest wavelengths: UVA, UVB and UVC. (Olay)

UVA rays can be considered as ‘Aging rays’ (Think A=Aging). They have the least energy but penetrate the most deeply into the skin. It has been reported to be the least associated with skin cancer, but if delivered in high dosages can cause skin cancer, allergic and non-allergic sun-induced eruptions, darkening and pigmentation of the skin (a skin condition of great concern for darker skins, also seen as ‘freckles’ on fair to medium complexions), and acceleration of the aging process. After chronic, long-term exposure, the skin may appear dry, scaly, spotted, wrinkled and leathery.

UVB rays can be considered to be the “Burning rays” (again think B= Burn). They are the rays most responsible for imparting what is referred to as a ‘tan’, the bronzing effect. In excess, these rays can cause sunburn and can also lead to the development of certain skin cancers and are the most potent rays to reach the earth.

Which brings us to UVC rays. These rays are of the shortest wavelength, carry the most energy and are the most damaging. Fortunately they are blocked out by the ozone layer, as there is no defence against these rays by the skin. The degradation of the ozone can of course be an issue in the future. Makes you think.

The skin and its response to ultraviolet rays

One of the fundamental properties of skin is its ability to respond to UVRs. UVRs emitted from tanning beds can be just as damaging as those emitted from the sun, or even more so as you are less likely to be concerned about the effects of the UVR when you are paying to get it. Who doesn’t want to get their money’s worth? How about that complementary extra 10 minutes at the tanning salon?…

Redness, also known as erythema is the skin’s first visible signal that the skin is in jeopardy. The first *DING DING DING* alarm. It signals to the individual that you may want to head inside now and shows that the immune system is active and that the healing process has begun. Redness is usually more visible in skin types I to III and less obvious in skin types IV to VI. In the darker skin types, however the individual may experience a warming sensation on the skin.

Tanning is the second pigmentary response to UVR rays and is really a signal from the skin saying:

 “Okay then… you wanna play it like that and ignore me, fine. I’ll have to bring out the battalion.” The alarm has been sounded; all defences are up. Skin is now in overdrive.

During tanning, the skin facilitates the development of darker skin on regions of the body exposed to UVR rays. The lighter the complexion, the more the skin has to compensate for it than it does for darker complexions, all UVRs being equal. This is because darker complexions can have up to as much protection as a sunscreen of a Sun Protection Factor (SPF) 15. Sunburns are a result of the skin being stretched beyond its capacity to repair itself.

The term ‘healthy tan’ is an oxymoron; a combination of two normally contradicting terms, which in this case is normally said in error.

Didn’t think getting bronzed ‘n sexy was so complicated huh?

Tropical paradises are lovely. There is something about the yummy-ness of feeling we get when the sun hits the body, that ‘happy’ feeling… sigh.

Moderation the key. So let us act like we know.

Sources: Olay,  SunSmart, Vitamin D, Notes.

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“Brazilian bikini wax is a must!!!”

There are times in life when we are reminded of the short to medium term goal that we set for ourselves sometime ago. You know, the one that we scribbled with that blue inked Papermate in the dog eared  2001 faded leatherette corporate daily planner. The one we reviewed every time the going got rough at our cluttered desk and we told ourselves that we were tell that being exactly where they can stuff those TPS reports.

*Join gym. Drink more water. Quit smoking. Stress less. Smile more. Start diet. Make time for kids. Find wifey. Make time for parents. Date night with Kim. Be more assertive. Get tattoo. Travel. Choose better men. Break up with Stacey. Learn Japanese. Eat healthier. Start business. Enroll in dance class. Take Mo’ Mo’ up on that offer. Start garden. Party more. Drink less. Learn the guitar. Put that damn cookie down. Quit job… now.*

Then there are the days when we are b!tchslapped by said plan; when something has either occurred or has been said and we realize that this right here… THAT AIN’T IT!”.

The “AHA!” moment.

Yesterday was one of those days.

You navigate life, trying to make the best choices that you can. Work Hard. Work Smart. You walk that fine line where you do the best you can to live in the moment without living it up so much that you are incoherent when it passes you by and trying not to take yourself too seriously that [what-the-what!] you have no idea what just happened.

~ Martin got married?

~ Shelly has a 2 year old?

~ Kate died?

~ Wait…. is Martin divorced?… I thought he just got married?

The thing is, apart from the fact that everyone else may think you are living in oblivion, you are fine. You’ve figured out exactly how to maintain the equilibrium, exactly how to keep the balance in your life, while precariously maintaining the status quo and you’ve found your flow, you are groooooooving baby. You find an appropriate way to channel the negativity (no judgements cast here) you may come into contact with and rock to the positive vibes you, and the handful of ones you allow in your life, generate. You’ve figured out that certain things in your life need to be tweaked yes but in due course, for in the grand scheme of things, hey it’s not so shabby.

Then somewhere in your bliss some special individual unknowingly says something that puts it all into perspective. You realize that people aren’t really taking you as seriously as you thought… and you are left wondering why you are the only person who believe that they should. The fog diffuses and suddenly the dance floor in the utopia that you were just doing the stanky legg (or robot, your choice) in is not only arid and patchy but it smells frowsy. 

“Where am I… and how did I get here?” you wonder, absolutely positively stupefied.

You dig deep, trying to keep the pressurized container in tact, and maintain a calm while you tell yourself that this right here is not your life. You phase in and out of consciousness for a minute and, in the clearing of the pulsating blurr, the overwritten scribble in the dog eared  2001 leatherette corporate daily planner comes into view.

*Join gym. Drink more water. Quit smoking. Stress less. Smile more. Start diet. Make time for kids. Find wifey. Make time for parents. Date night with Kim. Be more assertive. Get tattoo. Travel. Choose better men. Break up with Stacey. Learn Japanese. Eat healthier. Start business. Enroll in dance class. Take Mo’ Mo’ up on that offer. Start garden. Party more. Drink less. Learn the guitar. Put that damn cookie down. Quit job… now.*

And then you get it.

The light turns on and it all makes sense and you make that first step.

The one that tells you that you don’t have to get it right, but that at the very least, you owe it to yourself to just get that goal up and running.

“AHA!”

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Hello world!

Ellooooooo big and scary world. 

Yes, ”Beauty is as Beauty does” but largely, as humans, we often innately ‘do’ according to how we feel. Our environment, organic or inorganic, real or imagined, greatly influences the way we view ourselves, others and the world, the things we do… in effect, our entire personal script. The way we view ourselves in turn affects what we pursue in life, what we strive for… or don’t; The way we judge ourselves often influences how we judge others. Not that we judge of course, but you know… hypothetically speaking.

Can your world be changed just by changing your outlook on life, your diet, your fitness level, the music you listen to… the books that you read… you skin care regime…?

Well yes and no.

No – because you are one of over 6 billion people living in this world and as much as we would like to believe in ‘The Secret’, some things just may be out of the three feet of personal space that most of are adamant about living in, but yes because most of us have been blessed with the power to affect how we view our circumstances, how we respond to challenges, how we fuel ourselves and how we present ourselves to the world. 

I understand that, for some of us, this whole personal acceptance deal is neither a challenge nor is it an issue, so feel free to enjoy the pictures and throw my views to the wind. But for the rest of us lesser mortals, struggling with balancing the Grown with the Sexy can take us right back to those awkward highschool moment – ***grad anyone???***. You know it:

-  ”I’ll have a side of veges ~ Potatoes. Ummm… no, no… the fries”…. “Okay no… I’ll have the fully loaded baked potato with extra cheese then. Thank you very much!”
-  ”Gonna get a glycolic peel in time 4 da cruise!!!! OMG!!!! <3
-  ”I don’t need sunscreen. I have built in sun protection. Besides, that goop makes me look grey.”
-  ”Antioxi-who?”… “Free radi-wha?”
-  ”Makeup Shmakeup. I always look like a clown. That mess is not for me”
-  ”My skin is too oily to moisturize”
-  ”Now if only I can lose these last 10 lbs dammit!”

The inner and the outer self. The Yin and the Yang. It’s all connected. It’s that simple.
Information helps us make better choices. We can do better.
Welcome to Glamity Calamity.

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