Sexy State of Mind

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Sexy is truly a state of mind, Hero or zero

Sexy is not a profession, it is not a size. It is neither a skin colour nor hair type. It’s a swag. Sexy need not speak for it radiates from the eyes. It resides within the funk, deep within your soul.

It’s not the end result, it’s the initiator. You can’t buy it, wear it or surgically enhance it. It doesn’t age. You have to find sexy within yourself and own it.  Swagger jack and people will be made out in a big way. You will not be considered sexy, you will be considered fake.

It is an unconditional love of self, a honest belief that you love yourselves and everything that comes along with it. Many times we are incensed by society when we feel that they do not accept us as ‘we are’. But how can we expect society to accept us when we aren’t even accepting of ourselves? A Sexy State of Mind subconsciously commands the world to stop and to pay attention. To appreciate. To love. To gravitate toward. No long talking.

It’s how you walk, how you talk. It’s how you view the person who looks back at you in the mirror. It’s where you put that person in the grand scheme of things. Is that person first or last? Is that person even on your list?

How can we attract good when all that we project is doubt and a vapid obsession with being someone else? How can we expect the world to take note of what we have to offer if we don’t demonstrate what it is, or even know what it looks like? Instead we only attract predators, for in this mindset we are nothing but wounded prey. We are so deprived of  love within, just by osmosis, we absorb manufactured love wherever and however we can.

To achieve a sexy state of mind we have to be comfortable with who we are, where we are in life and understand where we are going. We must practice self love daily, give ourselves the benefit of the doubt and cut ourselves some slack. We must set our goals, work smartly to reach them, and enjoy the journey. Every year is our best year, because everyday we tell ourselves “I am the best me today”.

Let us stop focusing on our weaknesses. It gives them too much importance in our lives. It enables them to be part of our mental script, which only further debilitates us. There are other people with that strength, let them contribute that to the team. Weaknesses makes us nothing less than human.

Cause let’s be real; no matter how hard we work at our weaknesses, they are never going to be as strong as we wish them to be; they will never be our strengths.  So let us focus on developing our strengths. Let our strengths shine. When we put enough focus on developing our strengths, no-one will know or even care about our weaknesses.

We can’t have a sexy state of mind if we are stuck in the waiting phase. Waiting on that promotion, waiting on the right time to step out that dead-end relationship, waiting until we lose those extra pounds to get our look together, waiting until something else comes along that will enable us to have another life. The “Waiting State of Mind’ doesn’t promote positivity. It doesn’t promote happiness. It doesn’t promote sexy.

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Be your own sexy self. Everyone else’s is already taken.

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Lady in Bold

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Red is usually the go-to lip colour where a sexy look is concerned but it is not the easiest color to wear.

Red lip colour is a high maintenance colour. It’s very noticeable when it starts bleeding, a special concern for those of us with lip lines or fine lines that radiate outward from the lips, usually as a result of aging or premature aging caused by smoking, or when it starts to wear throughout the day/night.

Red, like other richly pigmented lipcolours but moreso, highlights any imperfections on the face, so to successfully wear bold red lipstick your foundation and concealer application needs to be on point as any wrinkles, blemishes, dark spots or hyper-pigmented (darkened areas) on your face will be on full blast. 

For minimalista ‘bold’ lip colour glam consider:

- Layering red lipstick over lip balm to create a softer look, with just a hint of colour or
- Choosing a bold but translucent lip gloss instead.

Some tips for successfully wearing red lip colour are below. The same steps would aid in extending the wear of other bold lip colours; fuschia, plum, cherry et. al.

For bold lip colour glam:

1. Select the right red

Finding a tone of red  that compliments your skin tone can be difficult for some skin tones. 

Typically, these work best for the following skin undertones:

-  Warm Yellow skin undertones - Brown reds. Brown undertones in lip colour often bring out the yellow-ness in teeth though so pick your peony. If you are particularly conscious of yellow teeth consider wearing Red’s cousin; a plum or berry based lip colour. 

- Warm Red undertones – Blue reds

- Warm red/ orange undertones – wear similar red/ orange reds

- Cool blue undertones – berry and plummy reds

The same guide can be used when selecting plums, pinks & cherries 

2. Exfoliate & Moisturize lips

Red, dry, flakey lips is not the business. 

Read more about exfoliating lips here

3. Apply foundation to lips

You can use the same shade of foundation that you normally use for your face. This attempts to even lip tone and provide the best possible palette for even application.

Limit application to lip area. In the event that foundation gets on upper and lower lip area, blend well.

4. Layer lips with loose powder

Dust lips with loose powder using either a powder puff or powder brush. This sets the foundation on lips, much like it would on the face, and helps colour last longer.

5. Line lips with lip liner

- Starting at the right corner of  the top lip, move toward the middle of the lip with lip liner, in the exact or similar shade to your desired lipstick colour, using short controlled strokes.
- Move to the left corner of the top lip and repeat.
- Repeat entire process on the bottom lip.

Lip liner applied in this way helps prevent bleeding of lip color, especially where lip lines (fine lines around lips, usually as a result of aging or premature aging caused by smoking) are present.

TiP: Placing the pinky finger (of the hand holding the lip liner) on the chin area while you apply the lip liner on step 5. and 6. can help stabilize and ease application.

6. Fill in entire lip with lip liner

- Starting again at the right corner of your top lip, using the same short, control strokes, fill entire lip from corner moving toward the middle of the lip.
- Move to the left corner of the top lip.
- Repeat entire process on the bottom lip. 

7. Apply lipstick

Using a lipstick brush, apply lipstick with lip brush in the same manner that the lip was filled in with the lip liner.

TiP: For added dimension add a dab of lip gloss on the middle of tip and bottom lip and and blend.

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Pucker up!

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Supernova

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