Operation : Edit Mental Space

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Ever since I was a little girl and the mean kids didn’t want to play with me, my mother always told me that I don’t have to make friends every where I go. It would be nice, but it wasn’t a prerequisite.

I have also been a serious advocate of the “clean your closet” phase of life as well, you know kinda like when in real life you remove the stuff in your closet that just can’t fit, is old news, or just doesn’t do it for you anymore. Well it works for your mental life too…

You see my theory is if you have people taking up room in your heart ,then then they’d better be worth something.

You want the sunshine bringers, and the mood lifters, the song singers and the mental dancers.  And yeah, you want the serious ones too – those who aren’t afraid to slap you upside the head and say “I love you girl but you flushing your self down the toilet. Wake up!”

You can do without the wannabe drama queens, and the people who can’t share anything of themselves, and the stalkers, you know the ones, who you just know are wanting to be your friend because they have an ulterior motive – like popularity or envy. They follow you about and wait for a photographer, so that all of Trinipulse can KNOW that they were at that party with you, and then suddenly their whole life is just like yours, even down to the look alike boyfriends.  Phone calls to you are abundant, and Ms. Photostalker suddenly will resort to using the office phone line to call you, and leave pleading messages on your phone, pretending not to know why you stopped talking to her.

Can I hear restraining order?

I believe that one should surround one self with Positive People.

How how does one go about doing this? I can only tell you what worked for me.

I wrote a list. I put the people that I really could not do without on one side that was labeled “People I can’t do without“. Then I put the people that I thought I could do with a break from on the side that I labeled “People I need a break from“.

And then I did just that.

And then of course there are the persons who didn’t make either list. What to do with them? Hmmm….

Well you dont have to do a damn thing.

You don’t want to be their friend – and you don’t have to feel badly about it.

See my mother was right. You don’t owe the world anything. The persons that matter are yourself and well… Yourself.

Sounds selfish huh?  True, but hear me out.

There some persons out there who just do not deserve to be in your life. You were nice and you opened your heart to them, and they either are too selfish to care about your needs, too caught up in their own lives, and only come to you whenever they need you do be there, or want you do something. When you need them they are never there, and when you go out in public, they do their best to ignore you as if you guys didn’t come there in each other’s company in the first place, God forbid if you were part of a group. You end up feeling like an outsider the rest of the night. Sounds familiar?

Well think about this. When you were in this situation how did you feel? Do you remember? Did the person treating you with such scant courtesy think about how you felt?

Nope.

So why are you wasting precious time worrying about their feelings? Just move on.

Shut the door on that and hop on a train to Happy Fun Times!  Chances are they won’t miss you anyways. And if they should call? Hit the End Call Button. That works really well. Well, it does for me.

You need to find what works for you.

Sure, people might get a little hurt, some might ‘tote’ feelings, but in the grand scheme of thing’s, you didn’t mean that much to them anyway, so they’ll get over it.

And you? You get piece of mind, a clean mental closet. and more time to love those who love you.

A life that is worth living, is shared with the people who help make it worth living.

Finally a Catch 22 that makes sense.

Forward ever.