Posts Tagged ‘Grown’
What in the E.F. is going on here.
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We’re all urged to be physically fit. Of course it’s not all hoopla; being physically fit can get you anything from a date, a job, to the chance to be able to play with your grandkids. So yeah, being physically fit is important. But, we are more than a bunch of bones and muscles, which may explain why perfectly ‘normal’ looking people make destructive and painful choices.
Emotional Intelligence has been around for a while so most of us get that we need to possess some measure of that to succeed in the corporate world .
Emotional Fitness, however is an entirely different story and is a hot topic now. My take on it is that emotional fitness is the degree to which an individual deals with situations, recover or become stronger in spite of the experience. The ability to not be disfigured by all the lemons that are thrown at you in life, to deal with not-so-fab experiences in a postive way, and to have the inner strength to be who you want to be, regardless of who is standing next to you, or what your ‘friends’ may think.
This state of having a strong sense of self enables an individual to do a number of things, including but not limited to:
- Resolve conflict faster
- Find solutions easier
- Live at peace with yourself and those around you
- Fulfill your dreams
- Have healthy lasting relationships
Thus having less run ins with:
- Anger
- Self-condemnation
- Regret and
- Resentment.
and less instances of people messing with his/her head. I wouldn’t doubt that somewhere in the melee the individual’s quality of life is increased.
Sounds like a dream. Where do I sign up?
Clearly anything this fantastic doesn’t come easy. You can’t pop a pill or insert some silicone somewhere and then remove some fat elsewhere and get it. It ain’t that easy.
In the same manner we follow to become physically fit, yes we do need to practice those specific exercises that develop the strong sense of self muscles, and don’t do the endless reps of those exercises that make us feel like crap.
It’s a minute-by-minute thing until you’ve found your personal groove. Depending on how far away from yourself you are, this can take anywhere from months to years I’d imagine. Either way my guess would be that it would have to begin with you REMOVING yourself from everything that you presently know, and reintroducing things one by one and carefully documenting your inner reactions and thoughts to said stimuli.
Sure you can get a life coach or something fancy like that, or if you are emotionally ‘well’ enough to think without the assistance of meds, you can just make the decision to know you better, starting now. Either way, outside help or DIY, the key is that the desire to change must come from within or forget it.
It can start with daily affirmations yes, but it surely that can’t be the be all and end all. Doesn’t make sense to wake up and recite a fantastic paragraph in the mirror and then hop straight into some self destructive activity or the other that leaves you insanely depressed.
We are too much of a complex species for us to just talk ourself out of destructive behaviour or thoughts; we actually have to do, remove, add or implement something for example. Something verb-ish, that involves unapologetic, conscious and consistent action on our path over time, however long it takes for us to get it right and for it to become a habit, and then effort to maintain what we know to ourselves to be true.
But, after all that who are we really fooling. This sounds like a hell of a lot of work doesn’t it. Besides, noone wants to be unique anymore. Everyone wants to be the same cookie cutter, mainstream bore. *Yawn*
Fantastic. What fun.
Perhaps if we were able to add ourselves to Facebook, or BBM we may be able to spend some time with ourselves. We might not necessarily get down the the nitty gritty of why we are who we are and why we should LIKE it, but at the very least we will get a message from time to time that lets us know that we exist.
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The F word
Fear.
It is easy to allow it to dictate my pace.
Thing is, Fear, you are not only relative, you are damn haphazard. There is no formula really that can let me know when you are going to stick your ugly head and upset my apple kart or worse, just plain old embarrass me.
I have experienced you in both the known and the unknown. In the thought of being both noticed and unnoticed, recognized or not recognized. In being successful or not being successful. Therefore, if I allow you, Fear, to control me, I can never win and I will always lose.
When I analyze it, turns out that you are really nothing more than a perception; an outcome of what I ‘believe’ to be a possible turn of events, as I usually do not Fear what I have accomplished or overcome but what will come or what is left to do.
I am aware that my ‘perception’ of the outcome of these events, can be skewed based on a number of factors, not limited to my stress level, my guilt, lack of sleep or of course my pride, all of which I create, of which I am in control of.
So when I really think about it, Fear, it comes down to one of two things. It’s either going to be you, or it is going to be me. Just one of us will win, the other will lose. As I am no loser, that does not leave much space for you now does it.
Seeing that I have just admitted that you are a figment of my imagination, I can choose to ignore you. And as I am fully capable of making that choice, I will. I am. I just did.
So whatevs; On to the next one. I refuse to be bullied by something that doesn’t even exist.
F you.
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Skin Care | “Skin Vitamins”
Antioxidants.
How do they work and why are they an important part of an ‘anti-aging’ skin care system?
Simply put, antioxidants are substances that protect the skin against the damaging effect of free radicals, i.e. unstable atoms that are generated by:
- Sunlight (UVA & UVB radiation)
- Pollution
- Smoke
- Stress
- Certain foods
- Drugs
- Exercise, etc.
The presence of these free radicals not only assist causing disease, but they also accelerate the skin’s aging process. Antioxidants are substances that increase the body’s (or in this case the skin’s) defense against the damaging effect of free radicals.
With the understanding that exposure to the sun accounts for 80% of the aging that we can prevent on our skin, it would seem that addressing this issue alone can go a long way to preserving the face we have for a few more years.
Think it’s all hogwash? Maybe.
How do ‘antioxidants’ work?
Well, let’s see. Perhaps the best analogy would be the case of the apple.
Slice an apple in half. Leave one half exposed to the atmosphere for a few minutes and the other half you sprinkle some lemon juice on. What would happen?
You will notice a browning colour starting to appear on the exposed inner parts of the part of the apple .
However, what would happen if you were to drizzle some lemon juice over the other half of the apple and let it sit for a while? The result? Nada.
The original colour of the sliced apple is preserved, enabling you to still serve it to your guests after having it sit out for some time, or have your kids actually eat the apple at school rather than throw it away because it was ‘rotten’.
This browning process is called oxidation, and it’s the same thing happens to silver, or almost any other metal that is exposed to the atmosphere (the mixture of water and oxygen primarily) over time. Rust, for example, is the extreme case of a metal that’s been oxidized. Your skin is no different. Like the lemon, antioxidants in skin care assist in slowing down this ‘oxidzation’, which accelerates aging.
Gold, platinum and palladium do not oxidize at room temperature, which is the reason they are used in jewelry and electronics. Stainless steel, titanium, tantalum and niobium are highly resistant to oxidation… not sure how I traveled so far on this tangent, so let me hop off here.
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Back to the skin, this is not to say that you ought to put lime or lemon juice directly on your skin of course. Well you can, but that wouldn’t be very intelligent.
Lemon juice may work for the apple, but it is much more acidic than the natural pH of the skin’s surface. The skin’s natural barrier would be degraded leaving your skin more prone to, among a host of other things, increased dehydration (less moisture) and inflammation (more redness/ sensitivity) in skin, both of which accelerate the skin’s aging, which will bring you to square negative five (-5).
So, as I said, not very intelligent move.
However, Vitamin C is a very powerful, common antioxidant. So how can we capitalize it’s effect on our skin?
With the understanding that the Vitamin C that is freshly squeezed out of an orange breaks down before you can top up your tumbler and add that umbrella, a more stable form of Vitamin C needs to be packaged for use in skin care products.
Magnesium Ascorbyl Phosphate (MAP) is a very stable form of Vitamin C, stable enough to be used in skincare. After all, we’ve all been told to up our Vitamin C intake to prevent the common cold, and to boost our immune system in general.
In the same way, you can have vitamins for the skin. These “Skin Vitamins” can be thought of as Antioxidants.
Ingredients, Ingredients, Ingredients.
Some of the best antioxidant ingredients found in skin care (and their cosmetic ingredient names) are:
- White Tea (the most powerful) or Green tea (Camellia Sinensis)
- Soy (Glycine Soya Protein)
- Vitamin C (Magnesium Ascorbyl Phosphate and other Ascorbic Acid derivatives)
- Vitamin E (Tocopheryl Acetate)
- Licorice (Glycyrrhiza)
The presence of any of the above in your skin care products, hopefully as one of the first few ingredients rather than the last, will assist in the fight against the damaging free radicals that your skin encounters from day to day.
Because free radicals are also found inside the body, having a diet loaded with antioxidant foods will assist you immune system in general. And, as you thought I’d say, don’t forget the sunscreen, a minimum of SPF 15 daily.
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She got it from her mama
Humans are an interesting bunch.
We are so technologically advanced at times, yet at the same time it’s amazing the things we accept as truth. “Anti-Aging” for example, must be one of the most overused words this decade, yet when you really think about is, is ‘anti-aging’ possible?
No.
A perfect example of marketing at it’s finest.
Truth is, although aging (an alteration in structure, appearance and function of skin as taken in this context) cannot be prevented, it can be accelerated.
Aging is a continuous process that starts the day that you were born. It is one of life’s harshest realities; the degree of harshness of course, is dependent on many factors including both Skin Type (genetics) and Lifestyle (how you choose to live your life) – just how much you didn’t care about your skin in your 20s shows up in your 40s, if you’ve paced yourself socially, earlier if thought then that life was running away from you.
As you can imagine, there are many factors that influence how a person ages. These factors may be classified as being either Intrinsic or Extrinsic in nature.
Intrinsic Aging refers to that which may be naturally expected to happen with time. It is said that 10% of our aging is intrinsic i.e. 10% of how we age is beyond our control and is affected by:
1. good old Father Time and
2. Genetics, that which your parents were so kind enough to give to you, like those allergies, and those toes.
A whooping 90% of our aging however, is extrinsic, meaning that it is under our control. Can you imagine that? Ninety percent.
What we eat, what we do, where we go and how we go there, as well as what we don’t eat, what we don’t do, where we don’t go and how we don’t go there can determine how well or how dreadfully awful we age.
Extrinsic factors would include:
- Diet, nutrition and overall health
- Lifestyle
- Exposure to UVA and UVB radiation, like the sun’s rays)
- Smoking
- Excessive alcohol consumption
- Stress
- Medication
- Environment, or other such external factors, for example if you injured yourself or otherwise did some damage to your skin. Or for example, if you live day in day out in metropolitan smog or if you live your life breathing in the fresh Caribbean breeze in some laid back tropical paradise.
- Hormonal
As you may, or may not, imagine, a significant amount of extrinsic aging may be attributed to aging as a result of the damage that is done to the skin as a result of the over exposure to UV radiation, which is otherwise referred to as ‘photo-aging’, a state where the skin is irreparably damaged.
Photo-aging may occur on it’s own or as a result of other ‘lifestyle’ factors. For example, the heightened sensitivity to the sun’s UV rays that occurs within the skin when something like alcohol is ingested. Smoking, quite a few over the counter medications as well as poor nutrition can also make your skin more sensitive to the sun’s rays aka burn more easily when you are outdoors.
So yes, she may have got it from her mama, but if she’s over 35 and can still get carded, best believe that there are a whole lot of other things that she, and her mama for that matter, have been doing right, like using a cleanser that’s an upgrade from soap perhaps, or using sunscreen… for starters.
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Walk a day in these shoes.
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It doh bodder yuh when people ‘tink dey know but dey have no idea?
Single-parenthood is a very difficult job, yuh know why? It eh called single fuh nutten. In fack I tellin’ yuh when yuh is a single parent yuh in it alone. A-lone.
It doh matter who dere tuh help yuh, somebody always ‘tink yuh selfish if yuh take even a lil bit a time fuh yuh self. You could sacrifice tru yuh nose; but if yuh spend one dollah on ah shoe fuh yuhself – yuh is ‘selfish’. Never mind dat yuh walking ’bout in shoes holier than de saints in heaven, nobody neva’ pay dat no mine’.
Yuh buy something fuh yuhself = yuh ‘selfish’. Steups.
***”Hear Nah! Walk a mile in them holey shoes before you even think to come and tell me how to be a parent.”***
How ’bout dealing wid dat thought?
Somebody tell me de other day that it doesn mean dat yuh is a parent if you push out chile. Eh heh? Well I here to say that just because yuh push out a chile doh make yuh less human neider.
Yuh is a parent yes, but yuh still human, with human needs and wants dat have nothing to do with yuh chile, most times. Yuh life need not be wholey and soley ’bout yuh chile to be a good parent, and in no way yuh is less of a parent because finally yuh manage to take some time for yuhself. Never mind yuh does be wukkin yuh tail off to put that smile on said chile face and food in dey mout, day after day, with no support, never mind dat! Cause, as life loves to have it, nobody does check dat. Yuh feel we doh miss dem when we on we ‘break’? Is not only chirren have feelings, parents have dem too, single or odderwise.
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People seem to think that because you are a parent, you should stop living; especially when you are a female, single parent. There goes the double standard again. Whatevs.
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Listen,
Nobody ain’t sayin’ that there aren’t some parents out there – male and female, who just aren’t doing what the they are supposed to be doing, but geeze, when a good parent is really trying especially one with a magic bank account and with both hands tied behind his/her back, keep quiet and cut ‘em people some slack nah?
Parents too need some “me” time. Time to relax, to spend treating themselves like they’d like to be treated, because let’s be real; If you wait for someone to get the bright idea to pamper you, you’d be be waiting for a lil more than a minute. I mean who doesn’t like to being catered to, especially when you spend every waking hour catering to everyone else, including YOU – the judgement passer.
There is a saying “The child benefits if the parent is happy” It’s that ripple effect that I believe in.
To all my parents, male and female, who are everyday magicians – making something *poof* out of nothing, jumping through fire burning hoops and turning positives into negatives so that their children don’t believe that they are disadvantaged, Kudos to you. You deserve to be recognized, and will be rewarded by the happiness and success of your children.
Forward ever..
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We have but one life to live.
Sometimes it rocks and sometimes it downright sucks; Just how much of either we feel in this life depends more on our outlook than on our circumstances.
The key to learning how to deal with others is to have a very good understanding of ourselves.
To understand where we are coming from, where are are going and moreso where we will not be found.
To get it straight that other people’s issues, challenges, thoughts and opinions of us (and the world at large) are not a reflection of us, but rather a reflection of where they are in their life.
How we see the world is in our control. Ultimately, to be happy in this life, we must find our own integrity, self-love, and peace by way of liberating ourselves from responsibility for the unhappiness of others.
Miguel Ruiz’s, a Mexican author, best summarized this concept in his workbook as a companion, The Four Agreements, (featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show if that does anything for ‘ya).
See below the four agreements that he urges us all to make with ourselves:
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
— Miguel Ruiz
His other works include The Voice of Knowledge, Prayers, and The Mastery of Love.
Thanks Camz!
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Trend Alert | 80s and 90s ‘Vintage’
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Short Shorts. Blumarine and Balmain Spring 2010
In addition to the previous fashion trends highlighted:
- Stripes
- Cutouts
- Wild & Exotic Prints
- Safari | Nudes & Neutrals
- Bold Brights & Neons
Here is a wrap up of the rest of Spring/ Summer 2010′s most catching trends.
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1. Very Very Short Shorts
Also known very affectionately by Caribbean-ers as ‘pum pum’ shorts. Yep, all up in there. Needless to say this is best reserved for the younger age bracket, regardless of how ‘toned’ your legs are. Short skirts/ minis are also an option.
The key to wearing this look is to contrast the super-sexy by pairing with boots/ booties and some top with long sleeves.
Tip: Resist the urge to go TOO short. Try to make a suggestion rather than be explicit, noone needs to see your assets.
Body suits are also big. Must be inspired by all the entertainers in leotards, and should also only be worn by them.
2. All Denim Everything
Head to toe denim ala the Denim Tuxedo. And not just any denim, this one is both distressed AND bleached, either simple bleach or acid wash. If you dare, pair with a simple white tee, and keep everything else as simple as possible. Again, a very fresh, hippy, young look.
For anyone over 30-ish, a great way to still get into this trend is by donning denim ‘peek-a-boo’ style. A denim shirt, vest or even jacket perhaps, under an oversized blazer or leather jacket, is a very subtle yet fashion forward way to channel the 90s without looking like you just dig into your closet and dusted off all of your 90s gear.
80s
The 80s style has been making its way back into the fashion world for a while, but it seems like it’s back in a big way this year, which officially makes the disco decade ‘vintage’. Strong shoulders and oversized clothing are the main contenders.
3. Masculine Elements
Strong shoulders on blazers (oversized or not) works this trend well. Pay very special attention to your proportions though, if you are already ‘top heavy’ or carry most of your weight on the upper half of your body (a healthy bust size or a very prominent mid section) this may not be the most flattering option for you.
Striped textiles, military inspired jackets and oxford shoes also fall in this trend. Pair with shorts or leggings to balance this overly masculine look. Simple, delicate jewelry, like a hairband or locket pendants also help balance this look.
4. Oversized & Extreme proportions
The super wide tee that’s also shorter in the front and longer in the back. Quite a few of the tees fall into the belly baring category. Remember those?
Also referred to as the ‘fishtail shirt’, tunics and dresses are also featured here, where the back length can be anywhere as long as just a few inches longer than the front to past the back of the knees. The key is to keep this as the only statement, as it’s enough as is.
Clogs are also big this spring/ summer season. Bring on the noise.
Tip: If they aren’t already rubberized, professionally resoling this type of footwear with a thin rubber sole often makes for a less noisy lifestyle, as well as one that is less jarring on your knee joints. Shock absorbers almost. Again, if you are over a certain age, preservation is key.
6. Jumpsuit Shorts
Love it or hate it, jumpsuit shorts and sportswear inspired clothing are here. These are best worn with casual, comfortable sandals/ shoes respectively, for a laid back ‘n fab look, and are best worn for casual occasions or a night in.
Whatever you do, resist the urge to wear either with super high stilettos.
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I think this more or less covers the Spring/ Summer Fashion trends posts. If you missed any, see below.
As you see there is a lot to choose from. The downside, however, is that there is also a lot of margin for major fashion error.
Consider your body type and your age bracket before choosing to step out in one of these getups, and pair pieces smartly. For example, balance:
- Volume with sleek.
- Exposed skin in one area with coverup in the others.
- Masculine with feminine.
Keep in mind that feminine has less to do with ‘pink’, and more to do proper fit and delicate details.
- Brights with muted tones
and you should be okay.
Minimalista Chick
When in doubt, your best bet is always to stay ‘simple’ and utilize accessories, nails and/ or shoes to the fullest, to get ‘on trend’.
Go Brave.
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If ‘Prints’ are too exotic for you, and ‘Safari’ is waaaay too laid back to hold your multiple personalities, an alternative for Spring/ Summer 2010 is ‘Brights’.
Not make-believe, wanna be brights, we’re talking about NEON brights, a statement that is most effective when it’s the only statement that’s being made.
Keep accessories either minimal or muted, and makeup beautiful and ‘naturally’ flawless. A little goes a long way when comporting a neon look.
Simple silhouettes work best with Bright pieces, it’s also best when you use just one colour, rather than trying to mix two neons, and, unless you are a tween, I wouldn’t recommend neon leggings. Period.
As a twist on brights, and following from the embellishment trend for Fall/ Winter ’09 you can also do shine. Just remember that when donning shine, do opt for matted leggings/ tights if you choose to pair something with shiny and short look.
Just one shiny piece is all that you need; remember, it is Spring, not the Holiday Season.
You get the Prints/ Stripes/ Cut-out-esq/ Strong-shoulders look all wrapped into one with this look.
Necessary Objects
How very efficient.
You can do easy breezy day Brights
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Turquoise is the ‘it’ colour of the season by the way.
You can work your tie-die looks as well with the Bright Trend…
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Whoa. That’s major wattage right there.
You can be stripey and Bright…
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Boho-chic and Bright – Fringe and Gladiators et al…
Tracey Reece
You can blind everyone but yourself at night too.
Tequila Sunrise | Versace
Shades optional.
Oscar de la Renta
Brights are pretty much like the “Exotic Prints” Trend, in terms of the shock factor, but it’s less of a muddled, “Look.At.Me” statement and more of a razor sharp “I.Am.Here” one.
Blue Curacao | Sinha-Stanic
All very simple silhouettes. You wouldn’t want to do Bright AND Voluminous.
Yup you guessed it, Brights look super sick on darker skin shades.
Pink Lady Dress | MaxMara
Werq.
If wearing neon colours is not your thing, you can still get into the trend by wearing neon nail polish. Corporate/ conservative job? Wear neon on your (sandal ready) toes!
So which Trend appeals most to you? Stripes, Cut Outs, Exotic Prints, Safari Trends, or Brights?
Still haven’t decided? You must be a young ‘un. I’ll sum up the rest of the trends – all denim everything/ hot shorts/ feathers/ clogs et. al. in the last post.
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Pick-me-up
Finding the right pick up lines must be all kinds of baffling for guys because some can really screw up a perfect opportunity by doing or saying something insanely inappropriate.
As if that wasn’t bad enough, more than the phrase itself, the wrong delivery of the right intention can really tank a potentially good thing. Crash. And. Burn.
Guys, here are some tips for talking to/ asking out a lady stranger that you’re into, or perhaps one that you kinda-sorta-know-through-someone-else-but-not-really.
1. Go Standard
Don’t use ‘text’ talk. She’s neither going to understand you nor take you seriously. This applies largely to the women out there who are too busy with their daily responsibilities to be carrying on a conversation via text for the whole day.
As a result, don’t expect her to know all the acronyms and symbol combinations. Not to mention a sentence that appears to be a hodge podge mish mash of words, symbols and/ or numbers, in no particular order, doesn’t LOOK Sexy.
Can’t spell standard English? Make a call.
And Facebook – it has it’s time and it’s place. If you don’t know the lady in question, please don’t just send her a random message saying that you think she’s nice/ pretty/ <insert something shallow here>/ <insert something inappropriate here> followed up by a friend request. It’s a step up from sending a friend request on it’s own but it’s still not good enough to be acceptable.
At least try to have a back and forth, aka a CONVERSATION, with her first and then move on to phase two of becoming ‘friends’. Why? ‘Cause doing otherwise it’s a tad stalkerish and a touch random, and that’s when you both have people in common. If you DON’T, then it’s just a ‘lot’ of the aforementioned.
2. Channel Rico Suave
It’s all in the delivery, consider it a form of packaging. If is one thing that we have learnt within the past few years is this:
You can have the best thing in the world, if it doesn’t look right, no-one is going to want it. Alternatively, the worst, dumbest thing will fly off the shelf when appropriately packaged.
1. If you are going to text or email a request:
TURN OFF YOUR CAPS LOCK. THERE IS NEVER AN EXCUSE TO USE ALL CAPS FOR A SIMPLE REQUEST. A PROCLAMATION MAYBE, BUT NOT A REQUEST. USE ALL CAPS AND YOU WILL APPEAR TO BE SHOUTING OR TO BE, AT THE VERY LEAST, BORDERLINE ABUSIVE. AND…
2. Enough with the suspension dots…
Say what you mean…
and…
mean what you say…
and finish…
a complete thought…
all in one message will you?…
Thanks…
When/ if the relationship moves forward then maybe we can play tag.
3. Be simple
1. Regardless of what you’ve learnt from TV, avoid using a cliche to say something that you want to get across on the real.
“…i dnt tlk abt it, I b abt it… now wht i mean… 
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is not where it’s at. It’s also grammatically incorrect, and serves to only give the same reaction as #1.
If you are going the comic route or for the ‘wow okay, that was weird’ reaction, then by all means, cliche away.
2. Don’t reference body parts or bring Mothers (or Parents) into the mix; it’s a very awkward visual for us.
5. Man up
It may work in your best interest to consider that lady friend of yours out to be a big deal, just so that you think about calling, or asking in person rather than via text.
If the lady in question just receives a random text/ message from you, it can feel like an invasion of privacy for her when she is bombarded with the random request from an even more random individual.
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St. Paddy
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Happy St. Patrick’s Day!
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It’s Wednesday and all, you might want to take it easy, after all, there’s still the rest of the week to go.
Eat, drink and be merry, and remember there is safety in numbers.
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GlamityCalamity
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Photo: George Stojkovic / FreeDigitalPhotos.net
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